Ds1 is 7 and in year 3. He does well academically and I don't have any worries about his actual work, although his is 'unusual/quirky' and does have some social/communication and other issues which we are still considering looking into further.
Half way through year 2 we started having problems with him forgetting to hand in and bring home things. Well actually remembering anything really, from letters and reply slips to lunch boxes, pe kits and coats. As for homework, he seems to be acually incapable of bringing it home when its given out and handing it in on the day it is due.
At the end of last year, after he teacher had a word with me about him 'not doing' his homework (he does it every week without fail and always has it with him to hand in on the right day) I wrote him a prompt card/list which fitted in the little window on the front of his bookbag so it sort of said Monday, change reading books, bring home spelling book. Tuesday, bring home literacy homework and library book etc etc. This worked for about three weeks and then he 'forgot' to check the list even though it was staring him in the face!
We are having worse problems this year, as now he is in the Juniors, he is expected to be lot more responsible and remember things for himself. He has only managed once to hand in his homework on the right day and every single day when he comes out I have to get the list of reminders I have written him out of his bag and send him back in for the missing items. Most days I have to send him back in two or three times even though I only told him two minutes ago what he needed to bring out.
Quite frankly it is obvious that he just isn't looking at the list at all and he has just admitted as much to me. When I asked him why he doesn't look a the list, he says "I just forget" which I am a bit about as I deliberately put it in the little pocket on his bag in front of his mid-morning snack so he can't really miss it.
We have tried doing a reward/sticker chart on which he gets a sticker every time he hands in his homework on time, but it proved demotivational because he still didn't remember to do it.
Would it be unreasonable of me to ask the teacher to work with me on some sort of prompt/reward system to remind him what he needs to do in the hope that it just becomes routine/second nature as the year goes on? Initially I thought this would be a good idea, but I realise his teacher has 26 other children to deal with and she can't be reminding each and every one of them of everything they need to do every day, so I would understand if she didn't feel she could do it.
So, does anyone have any other suggestions? I am truly at a loss to know what else I can do to help him. He honestly seems unable to remember things and writing him lists obviously isn't helping if he can't remember to look at the list.
I would be so grateful if anyone could help as we are having daily arguments about this problem and its ruining home-time for both of us.
TIA
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Argh! 7 year old Ds's forgetfulness is driving me insane! Any ideas?
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moosemama · 19/10/2009 16:56
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