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Would you go private for your dd/ds if a family member offered to pay?

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Megglevache Fri 09-Oct-09 19:49:15

For primary private?

notnowbernard Fri 09-Oct-09 19:50:08


But wouldn't go private if I could afford private

Prunerz Fri 09-Oct-09 19:50:33

I wouldn't. But I like the local school. If I didn't, I might.

Aranea Fri 09-Oct-09 19:51:09

No, my parents did offer to pay for dd1 to go private, but I'd rather she went to a state primary. Having said that, we live near some lovely primary schools so I would probably feel differently if our local schools were horrible.

Megglevache Fri 09-Oct-09 19:53:24

But if the school your dd/ds was attending was looking a bit grim and the "best" alternatives were all full?

TheApprentice Fri 09-Oct-09 19:54:59

I might consider it. But bear in mind that someone else paying for it can have its difficulties. My brothers and I went private and I found out much later that my grandfather had paid the majority of the fees. That explained why all our school reports had to shown to them and the embarassment/anger shown by my parents if they were not very good! There were then major repurcussions later on between parents and gps when one brother dropped out of uni. It can be very difficult to feel you owe a relative something because of their generosity.

ramonaquimby Fri 09-Oct-09 19:55:00

absolutely I would
certainly at secondary, we're at a great primary, choices not so fab later o n

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TheFallenMadonna Fri 09-Oct-09 19:57:38

No. And one of the upsides of the recession is that I haven't had to turn down an offer...

WartoScreamo Fri 09-Oct-09 19:57:38

I'm not in UK anymore and would not go for the European private schools even if someone else was fitting the bill. In UK, it would depend if it was going to Private all the way! I wouldn't do private primary if it was going to be State secondary.

notnowbernard Fri 09-Oct-09 19:57:43

Well, I can't afford independent education

Is not something I would go for anyway, from a personal POV

But also agree with theApprentice

Northernlurker Fri 09-Oct-09 19:59:59

Not for primary but absolutely for secondary. Nobody's offered though grin and we've been able to get dd1 in to a pretty decent school after all.

nowwearefour Fri 09-Oct-09 20:01:29

same as morthernlurker/ not for primary but defo for secondary

tattycoram Fri 09-Oct-09 20:03:26

No. Not necessary imo.

silkcut Fri 09-Oct-09 20:04:59


Tryharder Fri 09-Oct-09 20:09:37

Would I send my kids to private school if someone offered to pay???? Er, yeah...

Why would you say no??!!! [confused emoticon]

wicked Fri 09-Oct-09 20:11:39

I would, but don't have any potential benefactors on the horizon.

janeite Fri 09-Oct-09 20:13:06

No. And I hope I wouldn't consider it for secondary either - although it is difficult to know how one might act if a situation arises, despite one's values.

Aranea Fri 09-Oct-09 20:14:40

Well, then I suppose if the school my dc was attending seemed a bit grim, I would certainly be looking to see whether the local private schools seemed better. But I would be very cautious, because as far as I can see the culture at our local private primary schools is very precious and intense and people can lose perspective quite easily. I was keen to avoid that, but it was an easy decision for me because I love dd's school.

Prunerz Fri 09-Oct-09 20:15:34

I'd say no because many state primaries are excellent.
Because the fees at infants stage are lower, and go up quite a bit later on - I wouldn't be sure that my benefactor could see it through to 6th form.
Because being part of the local community is important.
Because I am not sure we could afford the extras and I wouldn't lie to go cap-in-hand on a regular basis.

There are loads of reasons to say no!

unfitmother Fri 09-Oct-09 20:16:53


pointyhat Fri 09-Oct-09 20:18:23


Because I only have experience of state. I know it, I'm comfortable with it, I support it. I wouldn't feel comfortable with private.

Not all hugely positive reasons, I know.

monkeysavingexpertdotcom Fri 09-Oct-09 20:19:13

For primary, no. For secondary, yes.

FlamingoBingo Fri 09-Oct-09 20:21:47

Nope - I'd home educate.

Littledawley Fri 09-Oct-09 20:23:35

We send our children because someone else pays and I am very grateful.

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