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How often did your dds change friends in primary school?

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staroftheweek Thu 24-Sep-09 20:25:25

Dd in year 2 now, has a group of 5 friends incl her who all seem to have pretty much decided they're friends and mostly play together at school and this has been the case over the last 18months. Who she calls her 'best friend' has varied between these girls but it doesn't seem a big issue, she just wants to call someone her 'best friend' I think.
My question is, how much do girls friendships change through primary in your experience. Do 'best friends' at this age stay best friends?
I'm asking because my experience was that I had a best friend who I knew from age 0 and we went all through school together, but this isn't going to be the case for DD.

staroftheweek Thu 24-Sep-09 20:37:22

Sorry didn't quite finish that...

..this isn't going to be the case for DD because she has gone to a differnt primary than her good friend who is daughter of our friends and who I had hoped would be her best friend through school, like I had.

HuwEdwards Thu 24-Sep-09 20:42:03

oh god, tis a tangled, confusing web.

DD1 (yr4) has had a different bf every year.

DD2 has a group but tends to name one girl consistently as her bf.

Hulababy Thu 24-Sep-09 20:46:09

My DD (7y, Y3) is in a small class of 14 girls. We are lucky as they all get along really well and play nicely together. DD tends to be friends with everyone and if any conflicts within the group start she is quick to avoid it. She has two or three girls who she is closer too, but no best friend as such at school.

DD's best friend is out of school and she has known her since before she was 2y. They got along from day one and have been lovely together since. Not sure they have even had a fall out at all yet!

staroftheweek Thu 24-Sep-09 21:11:15

Do you think it's better to have a group of friends rather than one best friend?

staroftheweek Thu 24-Sep-09 21:50:39

Oh please tell me more about it....

cory Fri 25-Sep-09 07:32:19

dd has had various constellations of friends, one friend has stayed throughout, but has only become the best friend in later years

QOD Fri 25-Sep-09 07:35:21

dd has moved right away from her little group of best friends, makes me a bit sad as now she seems to go from pair to pair of other "best friends"
I kind of want her to have her own

Hulababy Fri 25-Sep-09 08:06:27

I do think at school it is lovely if they can get on well and play with a whole group of friends, rather than relying on just one or two. If nothing else, it means there are no problems if best friend is on holiday, etc.

But then DD does still have a best friend; she just doesn't go to DD's school.

MintyCane Fri 25-Sep-09 10:31:44

My youngest dd is the only one with a stable *best friend*. The others are happy to play with anybody, always have been and are not at all sad about not having a so called best friend. We have rarely had falling out incidents over the years. I think it is best not to stress about it unless it happens. smile

southernbelle77 Fri 25-Sep-09 10:57:15

DD is 5 and in year 1. She didn't really know anyone at school when she started so got to know a few people. Around Christmas time she became very good friends with one girl in particular. Since then they have been inseperable. It even says in both their end of year reports that they are always together and have a very special friendship but it would be good if they made other friends too!

I have become good friends with this girls mum and we both really like the fact that the girls are such good friends and it works for them. They do play with other people as well but always together, itms. If one of them is off then the other will play with someone else, although they are always sad!

As they are so young I guess this may change!

katiestar Fri 25-Sep-09 13:59:56

My DD is in Y4 and best of friends with a girl one week , arch enemies the next and then best friends again.Seems to be the same for all the girls this age according to their teacher.

MintyCane Fri 25-Sep-09 14:12:04

I have heard that as well katiestar especially from teachers. It was never like that for mine though.

staroftheweek Sat 26-Sep-09 15:02:26

Yes, I don't think it is always the case that there is a lot of falling out and getting upset and making up again with girls at this age.
Personally I don't remember any of that kind of thing until middle of secondary school age. Perhaps it is happening younger these days tho?

primarymum Sat 26-Sep-09 15:08:32

Year 6 is a nightmare with the girls! They seem to be best friends/worst enemies at the drop of a hat, can be as catty as hell and drag every other girl they can into their feuds. At least the boys just belt each other and then it's all over!. Last year , the girls even involved their parents and we had playground fisticuffs!

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