educationally? I mean I used to read with ds1 and buy him all sorts of maths books etc. cause he loved it and he did them on his own mostly but I haven't bothered much with ds2 and now the teacher says to me, you know he's very very bright and we're going to give him some extra work, blah blah blah and I knew he was brightish but now feel guilty cause I've never really done anything at all with him.
I am not sure I gave more attention with DS1 but I think you are obviously having to share attention once you have more than one ( I know that is obvious)so DS2 never got me exclusively IYSWIM I think I was probably less panic stricken too. Although funily enough DS2 was more panic inducing
But DS2 needed more help so perhaps I have a weird perspective.
I certainly gave DD just as much - but then when she arrived the othertwo were at school.