Background: We moved into the catchment of a good (as in good for OUR DSs) secondary 4 months ago. DS1 (10, in Y6) is doing fine. He's in groups 1 or 2 out of 5 in his classes. He's adapted to his new primary school OK.
DS2 (8, Y4) is a different proposition. His Y1 teacher told us he was in a difficult position. Not 'bad' enough to get SEN provision but still 'behind' and at risk of 'slipping beneath the radar' as he is quiet (at school!) and, I feel rarely demonstrates when 'under pressure' what he CAN do. By 'pressure' I mean any sitting down and writing for 15 minutes/doing 20 tables questions type in class pressure, not Common Entrance or 11+!
He was in group 3 out of 5 in his last school, in Y3. In this NEW primary he's just been graded 4 out of 5 for maths and guided reading. (He's also been put with the Y3's for recorder after a YEAR of doing it at the last school!) I recognise that the previous school had 4 years of 'knowing' him so as to realise he is actually 'better' than he comes across.
I find that if I sit next to him and gently cajole and encourage, he actually preforms quite well. The 'ideas' are there but I believe if not 'know' that EXACTLY the same work done in a 'sit down all 30 of you and get on with it' setting would produce inferior work.
The recorder practice is doing TWO notes- he can sight read 5 or 6 (from his last school's lessons) but hasn't demonstrated to his teacher that he can.
We try and read for 15-20 mins a night, we chant tables at very frequent intervals, I question him and talk to him all the time (as in ''exploring his ideas' not Mastermind!)... I am aware of the risks of further confusing matters by trying to 'teach' DS2 at home esp once he returns, tired from 6 1/2 hours at school. He is also fairly resistant TO my help (a trait learned from his cock-sure older DB!).
But he is effectively 'failing'. And feels like he is.
I am not blaming the school. There are 30 kids, one teacher and one LSA. The school has 'the runs on the board' in terms of results and yes, I AM aware that the ante is possibly a bit higher at this school as it feeds 'God's Own Secondary' therefore attracts more -um- 'committed' parents.
Thing is, there IS a private quite nearby (fees about £2000 a term!) that I am wondering whether I should explore.
The upside is 12-13 per class and a very good record in Entrance Exam prep.
The downside is IS it an academic hothouse? A friend who sent her DS to it's 'partner' school said there's LOTS of homework and they DO tailor each DS towards the secondary the parents want which are largely also private though a fair few, being IN catchment, do send their DSs to this good state secondary.
There is also the issue of local friends BUT DS2 managed to get to know a lot of the local DCs in the half term we lived here before he got a place in the local primary AND none are in his year, let alone class anyway!
My 'plan' is to write a short note to his teacher explaining our concerns, and arrange to see him (giving him time, if necessary to come up with strategies). Then to give it a specified length of time to SEE if we've effected 'improvement'. And if, not, look elsewhere.
What would you do? How long would you give it?
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Going private for 2 years 'catch up'. Would you?...long, sorry!
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faraday · 22/09/2009 14:52
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