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Transferring from private to state - things not to say to/ask the Head.

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thedolly Thu 10-Sep-09 11:58:08

I have a meeting with the Head of our catchment primary school (5-9) next week.

So what things shouldn't I say/ask the Head if I want to give the right impression.

It's beginning to feel like a bit of a soap opera now - this is my 4th thread on the same topic blush. I nearly posted this in AIBU grin.

However it does have the potential of being quite a funny thread and it may even help me from committing an unwitting private/state faux pas.


LadyGlencoraPalliser Thu 10-Sep-09 12:00:20

Ask the same things you would have asked the head of the private school hmm.

MarmadukeScarlet Thu 10-Sep-09 12:01:33

Don't ask if they have a latin club?

LadyGlencoraPalliser Thu 10-Sep-09 12:09:56

She could offer to run one MS, I do at our state primary school.

mrsruffallo Thu 10-Sep-09 12:22:29

Our state primary teaches latin grin

Going by your past threads on this subject I would say as little as possible thedolly

scarletlilybug Thu 10-Sep-09 12:33:29

Ask the same questions you would ask the head of a private school.

What a bizarre question. Or were you hoping to have a little snigger at the "paupers" attending the state school?

NoahAmin Thu 10-Sep-09 12:35:39

oh god are you STILL on about this

Lilyloo Thu 10-Sep-09 12:36:47


blinder Thu 10-Sep-09 12:40:05

Don't say 'bollocks' or the c-word.

thedolly Thu 10-Sep-09 12:43:30

Shall I ask when they start preparing them for Common Entrance? hmm

I was thinking along the lines of asking to see a copy of the class timetable? Is that an acceptable question?

NoahAmin Thu 10-Sep-09 12:45:06

ask him if HE agrees you are up your own arse? or ist just the rest of us

Lilyloo Thu 10-Sep-09 12:47:04

grin Noah

itsmeolord Thu 10-Sep-09 12:49:19

DOn't ask if you can have a list of mums who take in washing.

Don't ask if they have a "poor" fund.

Don't ask if rickets is still a problem in state schools.

<being tongue-in-cheek emoticon>

blinder Thu 10-Sep-09 12:49:38

Yes, you can see a photocopy of the timetable but not a photocopy of his private parts. That's quite important.

Do you think that state schools are run by aliens OP? Your post is bizarre in the extreme.

AramintaCane Thu 10-Sep-09 12:50:22

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NoahAmin Thu 10-Sep-09 12:50:44

it is ok to ask to see teachers o level certificates.


<banana skin emoticon>

I copy mine

thedolly Thu 10-Sep-09 12:53:54

AramintaCane - the good people of MN have assured me that it is the done thing to meet with the Head.

NoahAmin Thu 10-Sep-09 12:54:41

you need to wear a hat.
DONT FORGET or they will get no reading books.

ANd take a bottle of somehitng too.

AramintaCane Thu 10-Sep-09 12:55:43

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blinder Thu 10-Sep-09 12:56:52

Don't ask whether Year 4 have a heroin issue.

Don't ask about their Oxbridge record (they are too young).

Don't ask for a wet-wipe and then wipe the chair you sit down on.

In all seriousness, you should ask absolutely every question you can think of - you sound completely clueless and should be put straight at the earliest opportunity. With regard to giving the right impression - try to let that go. You will probably come across as a well-meaning snob whatever you say / don't say. Could be worse. He will probably try and recruit you for fund-raising activities. Hope it goes well.

itsmeolord Thu 10-Sep-09 12:58:58

Don't ask where the school pool is and then say "oh, I thought that was the pond".

Don't offer to coach the lacrosse team. (they won't have one)

Don't ask to meet "matron" for advice on labelling uniforms.

Don't try and discuss swiss finshing schools with the school secretary.

Do wear high street rather than designer. (state schools can be rather dirty I find)

Do try to understand that not everyone has a 4x4.

<still being tongue-in-cheek emoticon>

<blows rasberry at Noah emoticon>

AramintaCane Thu 10-Sep-09 12:59:13

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itsmeolord Thu 10-Sep-09 13:00:25

pmsl at year 4's heroin issue. grin

NoahAmin Thu 10-Sep-09 13:04:10

ALL state primarys have a drug counselor though.
so do ask when she works

thedolly Thu 10-Sep-09 13:04:37

Thanks for playing folks smile.

One thing that I love about our current school is that the children play outside at least twice a day whatever the weather (raincoats and wellies in school every day).

Is the the norm?

AramintaCane, why the hmm? Are you saying I should be more suspicious of peoples intentions?

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