That's what I was thinking - I want to help her make friends, so was wondering about trying to fix playdates, but then thought maybe everyone would think I was a lunatic for trying to make their children do things after school! I may be over-thinking this...
Playdates I would expect. Quite a few of my son's classmates did dance classes, swimming classes, football clubs, music groups in Reception (they are just in Year 1 now). I felt my DS was too tired for any of that but we usually did a couple of playdates a week from about January onwards.
Well my boys did nothing after school in reception. However, dd1 was in reception last year and did rather a lot of things... dancing (nice and local in the village), swimming in nearby town and ballet in town. She was fine with it. She was also 6 months older than boys as they are both summer birthdays and she was much more able to cope - generally with school and extra activities.
DS will be doing occasional swimming lessons after half term, probably moving up to weekly swimming lessons after Christmas. I am glad we hadn't scheduled swimming to start this term as he's so tired after school and tends to be a bit tantrummy. There's a sports and ball skills club on Saturday mornings that we'll probably do as well as you can pay week by week rather than having to commit to a whole term andIcanhaveanicequietmorningwhileDHtakeshim.
DS does swimming after school one day a week (half an hour) and probably on average one playdate, either at our/someone's house or at the park across the road from school if the weather's nice. I think that's plenty, although I know some others have more organised activities.
Thanks all, that's very helpful. I had been planning for her to swim after school one day a week, and maybe do ballet too. But judging from the state of her after 2 mornings, and reading all of your experiences, I now think this was a bit unrealistic. So I think I'll scrap all that and keep schooldays free for playdates at least for the first term.