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If you were having a september newbies get together over the holidays would you invite the teacher?

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scaredofthegarden · 24/07/2009 14:12

Or would you/they think that was odd and awkward?

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BadgersArse · 24/07/2009 14:12

yes
let em haev a break

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 24/07/2009 14:12

Never.

Unusual idea.

Not sure the teacher would come.

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TheDogsBiscuits · 24/07/2009 14:15

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bigstripeytiger · 24/07/2009 14:18

I think that would be really odd.

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Toptip · 24/07/2009 14:21

no way!! are you mad?

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HighOnDieselAndGasoline · 24/07/2009 14:22

I think that's a no.

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EldonAve · 24/07/2009 14:25

no way

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Goblinchild · 24/07/2009 14:56

As a teacher, if invited, I'd have a subsequent engagement. You need to get together and share and bond as a group. It's a different relationship to one with the teacher.
Join your PTA as well, lots of opportunities to get to know staff socially then.

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TEJQ · 24/07/2009 16:16

Err, no - would you go into a meeting at work in the middle of a weeks holiday where your presence was not needed?

Don't mistake a teacher's professional interest in your child as a personal one. My teacher sis finds it REALLY awkward when parents assume she is as interested in their kids as they are - she has a life outside of school and wants to live it free from pupils and their parents if possible.

Maybe for her its different as she teaches overseas and its hard within an ex-pat community to avoid parents and kids she teaches - but she tries her hardest to!

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bigchris · 24/07/2009 16:21

definitely not

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Dumbledoresgirl · 24/07/2009 16:24

As a teacher, myself and a colleague were annually invited to a certain boy's birthday party.

Let me save you any more thought on this matter: 100%, categorically NO!

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Goblinchild · 24/07/2009 18:26

'Don't mistake a teacher's professional interest in your child as a personal one. My teacher sis finds it REALLY awkward when parents assume she is as interested in their kids as they are'

Good point, and the parents sometimes find it hard when you move on to your next class and put the same amount of effort into them.
Back to the 'present thread' and all that stuff about photos of the children as gifts, or pictures painted by them. I have children of my own, that's who I spend my free time with. No offense intended.

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cece · 24/07/2009 18:28

As a teacher. NO!

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plonker · 24/07/2009 18:31

Perish the thought!

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donnie · 24/07/2009 18:35

no way. The teacher would hate it!

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scaredofthegarden · 24/07/2009 18:46

Good - I should say that it was not my idea. I thought it would be awkward for her. Two of the other mums think we should and I didn't want to make myself too unpopular before school even starts by disagreeing if it was the thing to do.

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Toptip · 24/07/2009 18:52

tell them teachers are required to keep a professional distance

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 24/07/2009 18:58

I can't see how they could have ever thought it was a thing to do. Are they wanting to be teacher's pet?

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scaredofthegarden · 24/07/2009 19:24

I think probably because at the open day she said she couldn't wait to hear all about what they did over the summer and mentioned a few times that it would be good for us (parents and children)to try to meet up so that the children know each other.

Wondering how I say I think its a bad idea. Might just ask whether anyone thinks it might make her feel awkward and hope that some of the other parents agree with me. One of the mums already has a child at the school though and is quite dominant alreday.

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Goblinchild · 24/07/2009 19:25

I don't think it's anything sneaky or underhand FBG, they just don't know how the system works yet, and they're trying to be inclusive and friendly. Get to Know the Teacher Day.
But s/he isn't their friend, it's a professional relationship and hopefully the teacher will be skillful enough to help the parents work it out without hurting their feelings.
Or s/he could just say '£27.50 an hour please'

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Goblinchild · 24/07/2009 19:28

If she's going to survive as a teacher, she'll need to be a vertebrate. Don't worry, let them do what they want and let the teacher extricate herself. Not your problem.

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