I just KNEW I'd be a lather of uncertainty (my chief fault in life- lack of conviction!).
Briefly, we rent so we moved into catchment for a very good secondary 7 weeks ago. DS1 is in Y5, DS2 in Y3. It's 2 miles from the old house (and school). We moved DS1 into the new local primary feeder at half term so he's been in 6 weeks- the idea was so he'd get to know DCs prior to secondary in Sept '10. There was no space for DS2 so I kept him in the old school, awaiting a place.
Thing is, I KNOW we've only had 6 weeks exposure to the new school but I do prefer the old one! Their OFSTEDs are dead similar, the head of the new school was a deputy at the old in the past etc etc but it all feels so alien to me! In addition, though DS1 seems OK about his new school, his 'report' (all 6 weeks' worth!) did say he is having 'difficulty finding the right group of children to play with in the playground' ie Billy no mates! Of COURSE this was inevitable but it has unsettled ME!
I guess actually it will help DS1 having DS2 in the same school, though. DS2 hasn't got a close mate, anyway, but of course instead of me thinking 'That's good, he can muck in with anyone' I think 'WILL that mean he won't be able to make any friends at the new school?'. God, I irritate myself! Also, DS2 has the advantage of liking football, always an ice breaker with DCs.
DS2 wants to go to the new school. This is a good thing. Also, his new teacher next year (Y4) in his current school is known to be shouty. (I am encouraging myself to believe this move will be all positive!)
Finally, we have had an offer accepted on a house to buy just up the road from here so I mean we ARE going to be LIVING HERE 100%. SO why am I prevaricating about grabbing this school place??
I guess I need to get involved with the PTA etc to try and get to feel more in the loop at the new school. You really don't realise how embedded you become after 6 years with the same mums and kids, I suppose.
Now, thing is, I WISH I was one of those people who just make a decision, and get on with it- never look back, no regrets. We've revisited the prospective secondary a couple of weeks ago and we KNOW we need look no further: but then I think 'Am I being up myself thinking the old local secondary (perfectly adequate!) wasn't good enough for my darling?'. Then I think 'Aw shut up woman and get ON with it!'. I have a friend who has her 2 x DSs at a 11K pa each prep. This was just about affordable pre crash but daddy's bonus has disappeared so they're struggling BUT I don't think there has ever been a shadow of doubt in her mind that the local schools weren't good enough for HER DCs thus the falling down house and holidays in grimy YHAs are all worth it. The fact she knows she is batting above her league financially doesn't phase her apparently, though of course I've never met a private schooling parent YET who has publicly voiced doubts about their choice!
Also, I suppose I am in a state of flux: We moved here 7 weeks ago, we're still renting which I'm sick of (to make sure we were IN catchment by Oct 23rd!), we've begun the fandango that is house buying in the UK with all the uncertainties therein. Lots to destabilise me!
PLEASE note: This isn't a private/state schooling thread at all, just a wishing I had more courage in my convictions when I actively make moves to change the direction of my DCs lives!
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Just been offered new school for Y4. Mixed feelings! Ooer! (sorry, long!)
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faraday · 21/07/2009 10:58
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