Update: Any advice (Long)

[LRB978]

Original thread here, I know it has been a while, but thought I would do an update, as I have had ds's parents evening tonight and also he had an assessment for learning difficulties yesterday.

Okay, I moved him, and within weeks his confidence shot up, he became the happy boy he was before starting year 2. He has gone from counting down the days from one holiday to the next to not even asking when the holidays are. Gone from sticking by my side the whole time to walking himself to and from school (with me following at a distance). Gone from not remembering (being confident enough?) to hand anything in to not leaving anything in his book bag (this includes dinner money, breakfast club money, letters, homework and so on)

Educationally, I was told he was at a level 1c when in the previous school - they passed no levels onto his new school. His levels from his report are 1a reading, 1c writing, 1a maths and 1b science. I have noticed improvements in all 3 R's since he has moved and I doubt he was at 1c when he moved.

The new school have also spent the last term assessing him internally, and yesterday had him assessed by an external tutor. Although the written report is still to come, the SENCO had verbal feedback and the report will contain a statement to the effect that ds has dyspraxic tendancies. (Having googled this, ds fits between 80 and 90% of the traits). I want to take the report when it comes and give it to his old teacher, proof he is not lazy. I won't, no point, but at least I now know my quirky boy has a reason for his problems at school and I have every faith in his school to support him. They are already talking of possibly getting OT in to help, and I know they will if they feel it will help.

Sorry for the long ramble, but I feel justified, I can turn and give two fingers to both his old school and my xp (his dad) cos there is a reason for ds having the issues he does, it isn't my parenting and he isn't lazy.

[LRB978]

Bump for the afternoon crowd.

In particluar jajas and dysgu, but also everyone else who gave advice on the original thread.

And I forgot to say, but he is going onto School Action Plus as a result of the assessment

[yogabird]

I didn't read the original but it seems as if you have had quite a time of it. What a relief for you to have it all turn out so well. What a positive way to finish the summer term!

[AllThePrettyHorses]

LRB978, yours was one of the first threads I read on MN. I'm so pleased that things have worked out well for your DS. You should be very proud of yourself for having the courage to do what you felt was right for your son and make the decision to change schools. Your DS is a lucky boy to have a mum who fights his corner like you have over this.

[TheOldVicarage]

I read the old thread at the time, but didn't post. I think you're really brave to move him, and your son sounds like he's having a much better time at the new school!
All parents should be proactive like you - I have nothing to add to the topic, I just wanted to say how nice it was to read a 'success story'!