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Why do girls argue and when do they grow out of it?

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notyourservant Sun 21-Jun-09 21:42:04

I am sick of it and dd's only in year 2! I feel that somehow I am to blame.

Please tell me they grow out of it early in Y3!!

juneybean Sun 21-Jun-09 21:42:45

They don't ..... lol

Doodle2u Sun 21-Jun-09 21:43:56

How long have you been on Mumsnet? Have you not seen the odd argument amongest girls between the ages of 18 and 60 on here?

hocuspontas Sun 21-Jun-09 21:44:55

Your joking! Year 3?? Their barely into their stride. grin

hocuspontas Sun 21-Jun-09 21:45:46

They're obviously...

hocuspontas Sun 21-Jun-09 21:46:23

Oh and you're blush Time for bed...

notyourservant Sun 21-Jun-09 21:47:14

Then it's as I feared.sad Is there anything I can do to lessen the vitriol or is it pointless trying?

QOD Sun 21-Jun-09 21:47:50

(hysterical laughter there)
it gets to its worst in yr 3, yr 4 is pretty horrific but some girls grow out of it a bit, then gets better in yr5.
However, yr 6 they start to have periods and aparently will regress... great!
My dd is yr5 and its been so much better

QOD Sun 21-Jun-09 21:47:52

(hysterical laughter there)
it gets to its worst in yr 3, yr 4 is pretty horrific but some girls grow out of it a bit, then gets better in yr5.
However, yr 6 they start to have periods and aparently will regress... great!
My dd is yr5 and its been so much better

brimfull Sun 21-Jun-09 21:48:27

they openly argue and bitch until about yr 10 then it's more covert

notyourservant Sun 21-Jun-09 21:52:01

I just find it so embarrassing. I feel so lame saying 'be kind' all the time, it has no effect whatsoever. I try to think it's good that she's strong-minded, not a push-over etc, but it's hard to face the other mothers after yet another row.

TubOfLardWithInferiorRange Sun 21-Jun-09 22:03:32

Agree it probably won't get better anytime soon-is your dd a first born or only by any chance? My dd is and went to school with all first born and only girls in her class. Fun times! grin OTOH it did abate in year 5 or 6 and then there were no older sibs about to be bad influences/purchase liquor, etc. in upper grades.

zanzibarmum Sun 21-Jun-09 22:48:12

hocus - you are right.. not into their stride. I find I am just geting there

amateurmum Sun 21-Jun-09 22:55:50

Where I work, Y5 is definitely the nightmare year for girls being unkind. The outright arguing may have calmed down a little but the bitching and teasing is a lot worse.

Some girls in nice friendship groups do mostly avoid it.

Also, agree with tuboflard that year groups have very different personalities. Our current Y6 girls have always been 'difficult' from the day they arrived in school - current Y4s generally lovely.

zanzibarmum Sun 21-Jun-09 23:24:59

notyourservant - sureley we are to blame. When eight year old girls are pre-occupied with their nails, weight, where they shop and their favourtie brands where do they get this other than their mothers.

Fimbo Sun 21-Jun-09 23:29:01

My dd is in year 6 and only has 9 girls in her class of 30. It's not much fun. Roll on High School in September.

hmc Sun 21-Jun-09 23:46:27

We clearly have a freakishly wierd stepford school. Dd in year 2 with 6 other girls. No arguments - all deep lurve. Perhaps it works because its small numbers. I suspect we are lucky. Friend has a dd in year 3 where apparently there's tonnes of conflict.

Do think it could be a bit of a sexist generalisation however. Ds (only in Reception, bless) tells me that he doesn't like A because A calls him poo poo head (splutter) and the other day H (his best friend) said he didn't want to be friends anymore (sound familiar?). All is well now though - apparently.

Hulababy Mon 22-Jun-09 14:25:35

The boys in my Y1 class (am TA) argue just as much, if not more, than the girls! They do more falling ot and nickering amongst the, and are real big tell-tales too. We really buck the gender stereotype in tghat class, lol.

TBH though DD is in a class of 14 girls, Y2, and they all play lovely together. It is very rare to have them falling out and bickering. DD can't be doing with any of that anyway, with any of her friends, wehther at school, swimming, Brownies or drama.

WynkenBlynkenandNod Mon 22-Jun-09 14:32:32

I have found the same as QOD, things have improved in Year 5 after difficult years 3&4. Our lot changed schools this year though so have had a different lot of people to get used to and I think not knowing them well has helped the situation.

Am utterly depressed to read it gets worse again next year !

terramum Mon 22-Jun-09 18:39:43

They never grow out of it imo. Always preferred the company of boys/men since I was at primary school. Virtually every female friend I've ever had has turned into a bitch sad. Never had a problem with the male friends.

Wait till year 10 - then the fun starts after they've discovered boys, alcohol, hanging out in the local field shock. Oh, and school isn't important cos they're gonna meet someone rich and never have to work - dream on dd grin.

I've 2 dd - no1 the perfect 'stepford' daughter, 18yrs never been in trouble or argued back. No2 a complete little minx at 15, stunning to look at and knows it, argues at least twice a day, coming back sometimes an hour later to have the last word... angry.

Nope, it doesn't get any better....grin

madlentileater Mon 22-Jun-09 19:23:37

still waiting....eighteen years....

WowOoo Mon 22-Jun-09 19:29:52

Um, never.

I've just learnt when to keep my mouth shut. I also find men a lot easier and less bitchy. Can't beat meeting up with friends and slagging off our poor men folk though for a giggle either!

Shame on me.

You are not in school with her. You're not to blame, it's natural. My Mum used to tell me off for arguing but I thank her for teaching me how to hold my own in a debate/tiff with humour or pizzazz!

pointydog Mon 22-Jun-09 19:30:21

Girls and boys argue.

LadyGlencoraPalliser Mon 22-Jun-09 19:33:46

Year 4 is the peak I find. Although Year 5 and 6 aren't great either. But then DD1 has only hit Year 7 so I don't know about Year * and up.

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