I posted last week about how my 5 year old is having problems with lack of playmates at playtime. I've obviously been thinking about it a lot over the past week and one suggestion from observing his behaviour with other children is that he gives up easily and will stomp off if things aren't done his way. He's very good at carrying a grudge also. I think this is due to his ridiculously high standards for himself- a common characteristic apparently with a 'brighter' child (top of his class academically but summer born). He gets frustrated very easily if things aren't done properly. I'm wondering if this is translating towards other kids when he plays with them? This can't help in the popularity contest. Instead of realizing things are wrong and trying to correct himself he usually just goes all dramatic and flounces off. Or says 'I can't do it' or something to that effect. We're always telling him not to get discouraged so easily, yes he can do it, etc. But obviously it doesn't seem to sink in.
Any advice or similar experiences? I get so worried about how this is affecting his character long term. Or is it just him?
This is what the foundation years at school are all about - learning to socialise and interact with your peers. Children learn that their behaviour and reaction to others will influence their friendships and ability to socialise. Your little lad sounds as if he has very high standards and probably likes things done his way because he believes it is the 'right' way. At school he'll learn, eventually, to be considerate and will realise he is part of a bigger picture. It's a hard lesson to learn because up until now, they have only had their families, mummy and daddy who no doubt have given them lots of slack. He'll learn that being disappointed with his friends doesn't feel nice. Good luck