I think I am probably over-reacting, but just wanted some reassurance from anyone!
Followed DD into the classroom this morning a couple of mins after her to overhear the following:
Teach: "...It's polite to say Good Morning to someone if they say Good Morning to you. So for the 4th time, Good Morning XXXX"
XXXX: silence
Teach: "what's the matter with you?"
XXXX: "I'm tired"
teach: "I'm sure everyone is tired, but they can say Good Morning, Go and say Good Morning to Mrs TA then?"
XXXX: silence
Teach to TA: "Well Mrs TA, it is going to be quiet today if XXXX doesn't talk"
Teach to XXXX: "Go and do your jobs then"
Poor DD was obviously pretty unsettled by all this - she was just so proud going in this morning. Particularly as she was first and was putting her name on the Number 1 spot (kind of puts some confusion in their minds I think about taking turns, if the first thing they have to do each morning is put their name on a number to indicate whether they were first or last into class - particularly as they have no control over this and it is parent-dependent, but that's another issue that I disagree with this teacher about!).
I was bit flabbergasted - it was the first day back after half-term. She is only 4 and a late Spring birth, so one of the youngest in the class. None of the other children were forced to say Good Morning in the same way.
It is not the first time I've had a few concerns - we've previously had discussions about how DD is quite loud in class and doesn't let the quieter ones answer questions. She also asks too many questions and sometimes these are obvious questions, such as "what are you doing, Mrs Teach?", when Mrs Teach is sitting in her chair with a book, she's about to read to the class.
Last year, Mrs Teach thinks DD would have fitted in fine as everyone was loud and confident, but this year there are some really really quiet children, so DD has to learn to be quiet, to give the others a chance to speak up. Now I realise that DD does speak too much and I encourage that she has to learn to take turns and should learn when it is appropriate to ask questions, but having suffered as being painfully shy and quiet as a child myself. I don't want any confidence knocked from her, so that she then becomes too quiet and scared to speak up.
some of the other parents at the school think I should go straight to the Headteacher and voice my concerns, but I'd rather approach it directly, so I've made an appointment to see Mrs Teach tomorrow after school.
DD doesn't seem to worried about it at all - she's totally exhausted by school and is more defiant about certain things than I've ever seen her before, but seems happy enough to go to school each day.
I want to approach my meeting tomorrow along the lines of how we can all work together to channel DD's obvious enthusiasm for learning to everyone's advantage, without stifling her and the fact that I felt the tone used this morning was not conducive to encouraging her confidence.
What you wise ladies think? Am I over-reacting? Would you just ignore it?
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Advice Please - think there is a personality clash between DD (4 yo) & her Reception Teacher!
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fettle · 03/11/2008 16:40
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