Hi My ds has just started a new school and has settled really well. However he has to do swimming every wednesday afternoon and he hates it as he says there are too many of them, I believe its not just his year that goes and he worries in case he loses his clothes. Wednesdays have become a nightmare he protests at having to go on this day to the point of tears and it has become a real battle. He does seem to be making quite a bit of fuss imp as he always comes home with all of his things and hasn,t lost an item yet. I have noticed that he has got worse about this since he told me that one boy out of his class had to walk back to school without his trousers as he had lost them, I think my ds worries that it may happen to him. What can I do I can,t face the same battle every wednesday practically having to drag him out the door he has begged me to keep him off before now and says he wants to go back to his old school where they never did swimming. I am so disapponted that just this one thing is spoiling it for him as otherwise he loves the school. Me myself I think its great that thye do swimming every week. I don,t think there is many more to it than him simply worrying about losing his stuff.
not that I know of he seems happy enough whenever I see him on the playground. The thing is is that he has already obtained a certificate for swimming a width and was proudly showing it off he got this on his first lesson. He has been at the school for just 2 weeks now and tells me likes it but hates the swimming.
maybe he hates the whole taking off of clothes and getting into cold pool? Or the noise? I think you need to investigate further. Any child who is begging not to go needs to be listenend too. Has the teacher said anything? Who teaches the swimming? obviously somehting is going on.
His teacher has not said anything and he seems to be doing well with the actual swimming. I am not sure who actually does the swimming but my ds just tells me that there is just too many poeple and his clothes keep getting knocked off the hook. I really think he is worried after seeing the one boy having to walk back to school without his trousers and thinks that could happen to him. If this problem perists I will go and speak to his teacher.
If his worry is about losing his clothes, have you done all the obvious things that might make his less anxious? Has he got a swimming bag with his name on it? Are all his clothes labelled? Have you shown him how to stash his clothes in his bag and where to look for the labels to check that something is actually his?
My daughter managed to lose her skirt after PE, so we've had to rehearse a stashing-my-clothes-so-they-can't-get-lost routine!
all my kids got anxious about stuff about that age which is why I asked. With dd it was mould, with ds1 it was chicks being trapped in eggs and he refused to go to someones house where there were eggs! Sounds like he is really getting anxious about the clothes thing. Like madbad said, show him the labels and talk about putting all his clothes into a bag and hung on the peg.