thats it really, have an awful relationship with dds current school as I cant stand the place for a variety of reasons I have covered before, have had a few run ins with head because of (imo) poor leadership of school affecting my dd.
The head is quite vindictive and Im really worried that the school she is at now will slag me off to new school and that it will affect dd. Anyone moved dc to a new school because they werent happy and how have new school been about it all?
I wouldn't let it stop me. If the new head is worth her salt, she won't pre-judge. It may well be that she already has an inkling of any problems in your current school. After all, you might not be the only person looking to change. Make sure you are professional when you visit, don't slag off the current school or head, and that will give you the moral high ground. Try to find reasons for switching that don't involve you having to say there's been a problem with the head. If the new head already has an inkling, you'll come out well; if she has no idea, then don't let her suspect there've been issues.
Clam 5 others from dd's class alone have left so you are probably right.
New head wanted to know everything about why I was moving, I said things like I didnt feel it was the right school for dd and I think she would benefit from a t.a in every class all of primary. She specifically pressed me as to why I wasnt happy and I said I didnt want to slag the school off but that I didnt feel that things were handled right and didnt feel I had got a response if I had a problem.
Oh well, if she's been asking those sorts of specific questions, then you didn't really have much choice than to answer. And 6 people shifting is more than a personality clash. I reckon she knows exactly what's going on, so I wouldn't worry about her listening a great deal to your current head's opinion of you. You can take delight in proving her wrong, anyway!
I would expect that your old head and new head will have a brief chat. If the schools are local they probably have an established relationship. The head may mention something to the classteacher/ head of year. BUT that may not necessarily be a bad thing. It may actually make them more aware of your desire for good communication and more sensitive to your DC. It may also make them feel a bit smug that a different school didn't handle something very well (slightly naughty, but true). I really would have thought the positives of them chatting will outweigh the negatives. If your old head is vindictive her local colleagues will sense this and be wary.