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Am I overreacting?

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Orinoco Sat 27-Sep-08 21:30:49

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edam Sat 27-Sep-08 21:37:47

Oh, poor little sausages. I don't think you are over-reacting at all. School sounds appalling. What a dreadful way to treat little children!

The only school they have ever known is a miserable bloody place where the teachers are careless and horrible. I'd find another one as soon as you possibly can.

Heated Sat 27-Sep-08 21:44:10

I am a teacher & I'm genuinely [shocked] by the first part of your post. In fact, my words can't adequate express just how professionally wrong that is... gobsmacked.

But it is your eldest dd I am most concerned about in the long term. Being kind I'd say the teacher's response was clumsily done & completely inadequate.

Yes, for your dd's long term happiness another school imo would definitely be better, something I don't often post.

MrsWeasley Sat 27-Sep-08 21:44:15

I would move them too. I would be so cross if they left my DC whilst going out, anyone of those children could have wandered off. Its shocking that the teacher didnt even do a headcount at any point!

Can you home educate them?

They need to experience education that is fun and stimulating not boring and fearsome

tiggerlovestobounce Sat 27-Sep-08 21:48:08

I dont think you are overeacting. Leaving a child behind is dreadful.

mummyloveslucy Sat 27-Sep-08 21:48:34

Get them out, definatly. They are obviously unhappy and not being alowed to fulfill their potential.
Good Luck smile

Orinoco Sat 27-Sep-08 21:52:47

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Buda Sat 27-Sep-08 21:54:34

If you can move them then do so. It sounds horrendous. But make sure you let them know WHY you are moving them.

CarofromWton Sat 27-Sep-08 21:55:35

So sorry you're going through this - it's a hard decision to make but, like the other posts, I'm shocked and amazed that the school have been so careless with the kids' safety. On that issue alone I would consider moving them.

You mentioned last night on another thread that your DD1 is very similar to mine (v. sensitive - having trouble at night). My DD is lucky she has a good circle of friends but I don't think she would cope given the situation at school your DD has. Although girls can and do get on with boys, other girls as friends still take priority at this age.

All in all I have to agree with other posts - change school.

Grammaticus Sat 27-Sep-08 21:56:27

I am normally really against moving school and firmly in favour of showing children that problems are to be worked through. But I really don't like the sound of this and yes, I think I would see if another school could accommodate both of them. Then go and have a look at it and follow your gut instinct.

mummyloveslucy Sat 27-Sep-08 21:57:06

Follow your gut instinct, you can't go wrong. They will be alot happier and will make new friends.

Orinoco Sat 27-Sep-08 21:57:11

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Grammaticus Sat 27-Sep-08 21:59:35

Where were the rest of the parents? There would have been hordes at our school, half of them in work clothes and quietly asking one another "How long will this take, do you think?"!

CarofromWton Sat 27-Sep-08 21:59:44

God this just gets worse. Please move them asap. I have worked as a TA and I can't believe what I'm reading here.

pudding25 Sat 27-Sep-08 22:03:19

I am a teacher and I do not think you are overreacting. Sounds a disgrace.
What the yr 3 teacher did harps back to what used to happen in the olden days when I was at school - well, in the 70s/80's where teachers treated children like crap.

I don't normally say this but I would bypass the teacher and go to the head (and consider changing schools).

thirtysomething Sat 27-Sep-08 22:03:55

this sounds truly appalling they'd be better off at home playing in the garden or with dolls than stuck in this environment all day. It also sounds a bit suspect that the staff have almost all changed - why is that? Sounds like they'd benefit from a larger school with more structure and more opportunities t socialise. Mine go to a massive, 3 forms per year junior school with full classes yet each child is valued and known as an individual. I would change as soon as practical as school should not be like this. your kids deserve better from the system.

Orinoco Sat 27-Sep-08 22:53:43

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ingles2 Sat 27-Sep-08 23:00:13

Orinioco, you could be talking about us last year,...really!
I eventually made an appointment to view other schools and found one I thought they'd love. They started in Sept and it has been soo much easier than I thought.
ds2, who was always left out and didn't have any friends, is a different boy and is in a little gang!
I really really wish I done this much sooner. Children are so adaptable and you kick yourself for procastinating .
Go for it!

gagarin Sat 27-Sep-08 23:15:26

Children need a choice of friends - 3 other girls in a class of boys is just not going to work is it?

And the being left behind and being "the left over" is appalling. What those things could do an adult's selfesteem let alone a child's sad...

Children are often anxious about a change of school but may well be quite happy once they get there.

Go and look at the others schools at once - and contact the area education office to check the procedure for changing - get the forms etc - so you are all ready for when you decide to go ahead.

Orinoco Sat 27-Sep-08 23:17:02

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mrsruffallo Sat 27-Sep-08 23:21:48

Are there other options locally, Orinoco?
It sounds frightful

Orinoco Sat 27-Sep-08 23:25:37

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TheCrackFox Sat 27-Sep-08 23:31:47

Orinoco, I have just read your post and was so shocked. I truly think this school sounds crap.

I think you need to phone all the schools you have mentioned and make appointments to look at them. They all sound good so you will need to trust your gut instinct on this one.

gagarin Sun 28-Sep-08 09:59:42

look at the town school - there may well be places

you need to visit and get a feel of the place, esp if you are looking for somehting bigger as it might be rather different (and better!) from their current school

Orinoco Mon 29-Sep-08 20:45:16

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