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what would you do if you saw your dc....

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wtfhashappened Fri 26-Sep-08 16:45:36

constantly 'bullying' in the playground? Bullying may not quite be the right word, but I see him everyday when I go to collect his brother. He is 5, and much much bigger than his peers, and is very very exuberant. Last week I saw him chasing a boy with a hulahoop and catching him with it by the neck. The next day I saw him pinning a smaller child to the ground in the line up, and today as I walked past his classroom they were all outside in the corridor and he had another smaller boy pinned up against a bookcase and was smacking his bottom. I dealt with all three of those situations directly with him (there were no teachers or TAs around taking any notice), and am furious, as although it genuinely is exuberance, clearly it is unacceptable behaviour and I certainly don't stand for it at home. What would you do? It feels odd that I have to go to the teacher and say I have seen him behaving badly at school! I am not great at handling this sort of stuff, and would welcome your posts.

cornsilk Fri 26-Sep-08 16:47:27

Would it have looked as bad if he was a smaller boy?

wtfhashappened Fri 26-Sep-08 16:52:52

Interesting - I suppose not, but as he is so much bigger - the size of most 7 year olds, they really can't get away from him, whereas if he was the same size maybe they could retaliate? His younger brother fights dirty to stop him! (not that I condone that!) and his baby sister just screams at him until he backs off.

wtfhashappened Fri 26-Sep-08 18:05:01

bumping please

belgo Fri 26-Sep-08 18:07:12

I would make an appointment with the teacher to discuss his behaviour.

dinny Fri 26-Sep-08 18:18:40

I'd make an appointment with the teacher too

I was reading the other day that bullies are usually larger than their peers....

there's advice here www.bullying.co.uk/parents/is_my_child_a_bully/index.aspx

GobbledigookisThrifty Fri 26-Sep-08 18:20:55

I'd make an appointment sharpish too - it would make me very sad to think my child was behaving like that I'd want a stop to it right now.

ComeOVeneer Fri 26-Sep-08 18:21:10

I would be bringing it up, because as much as anything I would be concerned it wasn't being picked up by them. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot so to speak and it was your son being "bullied" and unless a parent was there it was going undetected!

Twiglett Fri 26-Sep-08 18:22:55

I'd make an appointment with the head to discuss insufficient monitoring during breaks .. you don't have to be specific but if there is an issue with not enough adults around the school should know

Troutpout Fri 26-Sep-08 18:27:24

I would definitely go in and talk about it.

cory Sat 27-Sep-08 10:04:43

I'd make an appointment; it's about helping your son as much as anything else. Ds had a similar problem with a boy in Reception, al so much bigger than him (and therefore intimidating), school took quick action, problem was sorted, they went on to become really close friends. That's what you want for your ds, isn't it? not being left to get it wrong until one day he gets into real trouble.

twinsetandpearls Sat 27-Sep-08 10:09:25

I would make an appointment to go into the school and have a stern word with ds.

wtfhashappened Sat 27-Sep-08 11:39:33

yes, I absolutley want a stop put to it - he certainly isn't allowed to do it at home - my concern was in dealing with the teachers that I was careful not to put their backs up. Gosh, I'm not expressing this well at all, but I know the teacher can be very defensive if there is any suggestion she doesn't have her eye on the ball, iyswim. Thank you for the link to the website - I will go and look at it now.

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