I posted below on God and science.
I had trouble with my son's school last week because of the way they had introduced the creation story into a science lesson. I ended up seeing the Head on Friday who was very defensive and not at all constructive in our discussion.
One of the other issues I wanted to discuss with her was three incidents over the last week in which my son had been pushed/dragged and had received cuts/grazes in the playground. He had reported this to staff and had treatment but no one had told me.
The Head is new this term. She accepted that I should have been told about the playground incidents but, during our meeting, she also told me how she had watched my son play . She said he had been playing 'all on his own'. But she also said, although on his own, he was playing 'quite aggressively' when she watched him. She had watched a little girl go over to him and their interaction but that had been fine.
She wondered whether this was how he usually played.
I was taken aback by this. I explained that he often played imaginative games like Peter Pan or Batman on his own. My son has a close friend at school with whom he plays all the time so I thought it a strange thing to say. I said he had a friend and I thought he was happy at playtime.
She then got up to get some things from her desk and showed me my son's pencils and exercise book which he had chewed. She said this had been brought to her by the supply teacher he had had the day before. She wondered whether he'd done this because he was anxious. Was he an anxious child?
I was a bit taken aback at having to talk about this in a discussion about RE/playground policy but I told her he often chewed on things.
She told me all this without seeming at all concerned for him. I really felt she was 'having a go' at me. Your criticise us, we'll criticise your son.
The Head had already scheduled the school nurse to join us at the end of the meeting so she could review an 'accident plan' which was drawn up for my son when he first started school and had a few toilet accidents. I had had to get the school to do this with the nurse after they had cleaned my son up and sent him him one day. But there no problem for at least 7 months.
I feel really uncomfortable with all this.
It is not the way that I would handle a meeting with a parent or the way I would raise any genuine concerns. I have had to raise complaints before at school because there were many problems with the old Head and I just got the feeling that she was setting out her stall.
What do you think? Am I being paronoid? I just feel that the next thing to expect is a complaint about my son's behaviour.
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debs40 · 22/09/2008 07:05
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