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DD starts school on Thursday, DS starts nursery the following Monday. Am feeling all wobbly and sad about it.

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moodlumthehoodlum Sat 30-Aug-08 22:30:55

Slap me and tell me to grow up. I am looking forward to the spare time etc but I feel sad about it, I really do.

I know. I need to get a life. sad

climbanymountain Sat 30-Aug-08 22:43:05

Me too. DS1 goes to school next week and DS2 to pre-school for first time. Am very sad because I always wanted the spare time but actually I realise now I just loved doing things with them every day.

CarofromWton Sat 30-Aug-08 22:43:34

Join the club! I was ok when DD1 started school but then I had DD2 at home as a baby. DD2 starts school next Tuesday and I've got a lump in my throat, especially as she tried her full school uniform on today for the first time! Also makes me feel old and "there's another chapter over then...." sad

Sorry - I'm not being very helpful am I? I think your feelings are perfectly normal though.

moodlumthehoodlum Sat 30-Aug-08 23:22:10

This is lunacy I know, but I really feel that its the beginning of the end of my role as a parent.

Its just the end of such an era. I don't have babies any more I have school children.


climbanymountain Sat 30-Aug-08 23:39:03

I'll tell you what worries me (pathetic I know) - that he won't love me as much anymore. At the moment he says he loves me more than anyone in the world and is always saying "I'll always be you mummy". I think he's going to grow up fast now and be heavily influenced by other kids. I want to keep my baby, sob sob!

climbanymountain Sat 30-Aug-08 23:40:07

should have said "I'll always be WITH you mummy", (don't want him turning into Antony Perkins!!)

MamaMimi Sat 30-Aug-08 23:51:26

OMG, been going through this all summer.

DD starts school on Fri and every time I've thought about it over the hols I have welled up thinking that she won't be at home with me ALL DAY, and that this is the start of her school life that is ongoing from here on in, ie. no going back.

But she's still my baby and I don't want her to be away from me for that long. Although, we do live right opposite the school and I will be sat on my bed every playtime watching her playing out. (Sad, lonely mother!!)

When I showed my mum dd's new school clothes the other day she started crying too, in fact every time I talk to my mum about it we both end up pathetic!blush

LuLuMacGloo Sat 30-Aug-08 23:57:00

Honestly - you wouldn't believe how many school holidays there actually are. They will be at home with you for almost half the year.

sushistar Sun 31-Aug-08 00:00:44

You could home school?

Bowddee Sun 31-Aug-08 00:19:07


I knew I wasn't the only one!

Although I managed a full blown panic attack. blush

DS (PFB) starts school on Wednesday.

onwardandupward Sun 31-Aug-08 11:08:10

If anyone really is gutted about sending their children to school next week: you know they don't have to go, right?

They just have to be in full-time education from the term after they become 5, at school OR OTHERWISE (=home based education)

There are thousands of us who have opted out, it's a growing little subculture grin

climbanymountain Sun 31-Aug-08 11:12:07

I heard this last week. Wonder what they'd miss educationally?

onwardandupward Sun 31-Aug-08 11:30:48

Strong research-based evidence (Google Paula Rothermel - she's done work at Durham - also look at the book How Children Learn at Home by Alan Thomas for v. recent educational scholarship on the subject) of equivalent or raised outcomes for HE over school-based education across all social groups.

It's just an alternative way of doing things, not a second-best. And it is perfectly valid just to home educate for a term or a year or two years or whatever until you and your child feel your child is ready to join school. It's not a decision you make now and have to follow through for the rest of your child's education!

If interested, come and have a browse in the home education topics (just above this one on the big list of chat topics, I think). There are lots of HEers who visit MN regularly and would be happy to answer questions smile

onwardandupward Sun 31-Aug-08 11:31:39

Sorry - by Alan Thomas and harriet PAtterson. I did an abortive cut and paste from this recent article here

moodlumthehoodlum Sun 31-Aug-08 16:18:28

Oooo I'm glad not to be the only one.

DD said the other night "Mummy, when I go to school, and (DS) goes to pre-school, you won't have any children any more. You won't be a mummy any more really. Who will you look after?"

shock sad

I had to leave the room to wail.

aaaarrrgh Sun 31-Aug-08 21:59:24

aww, can i join this thread. My DD starts school this week and am totally torn between feeling really excited and really sad.

Also I've been looking forward to having more free time (although will still have DS) BUT dawning on me that i'm going to HAVE to back at 3.30pm everyday. That sounds pretty tying really is it?

Fortunately DD is so excited and giddy, she's making me giddy too!

Bowddee Mon 01-Sep-08 00:51:47

Edited version of a conversation between my friend and her 4yo daughter:

Friend - " I'm losing my little girl!" <<gives huge hug>>

Friends DD - <<huge hug back>>"Oh don't worry Mummy. I'll still come home to you every evening."

sunflower1 Mon 01-Sep-08 07:31:28

Just reading this is making me cry I've just split up with my husband and my daughter's start pre-school and school after Christmas. I am sure I will be stronger by then and things will be more sorted but at the moment it seems pretty upsetting.

potatofactory Mon 01-Sep-08 07:43:49

I feel SO wobbly about my 15 month old starting nursery. I feel like I'm betraying her as I can't explain what's happening, and she has been with me for such a long time, and is prob at the worst possible age for being aware, but not being able to understand what's happening to her. I feel AWFUL. 8-5 is such a long time. I've just waved her off for the first time this morning! (DH taking her).

I could weep! I just did, actually. She woke up grisly and probably teething; wouldn't touch her breakfast (not that unusual, though) and then I had to pack her off, and see her little face through the car window going down the street! Not knowing what's happening to her! sad

thesockmonsterofdoom Mon 01-Sep-08 08:05:27

I am there with you, my dd1 starts school on Thursday and dd2 starts nursery on Weds, I am so sad I intend to go to the gym lots and make my house tidy but what am i going to do, i am going to miss them so much, dd2 is only going for 2 mornings for the moment so i will have things to do with her but iot will be very odd only having one child. sad The only thing keeping me happy about it is how excited dd1 is. she has been wearing her uniform for weeks now. smile

Runnerbean Mon 01-Sep-08 08:07:30


Do you think it might help if we shout it?


The BBC are going to be 'doing' a piece about HE next week (just in time for 'back to school') which is to show in practise how it works and back up evidence found by Alan Thompson and Harriet Pattison (book quoted by onwardandupward).

Quote from book,
Home ed is "an astonishingly efficient way to learn".

notsoteenagemum Mon 01-Sep-08 08:14:10

Home ed is just not practical for majority of people though, those who can are lucky.
DS was 4 on Saturday he starts reception on Wednesday my lip is quivering at the thought of it.

potatofactory Mon 01-Sep-08 08:23:01

It's not that people want alternative options - I made the decision to send my dd to nursery - that's done, and was much thought through. It's just the having the space to snivel, not that the decision is wrong. SNIVEL!!! sad

spokette Mon 01-Sep-08 09:02:19

My DTS start school on Thursday and I have been feeling bereft since Easter!!!! I feel I am losing my babies even though they have attended nursery part-time since they were babies. There is something final about them attending school - they are growing up and are no longer my babies.

As for the Home Ed evangelists, some of us want to work and have a career and some of us have no choice but to work.wink

moodlumthehoodlum Mon 01-Sep-08 09:38:13

I agree Potatofactory. DD & DS are both looking forward school and nursery - they have both been well prepared for it, and we think that atm this is the right decision for them. It doesn't make it any easier for me though, feeling all bereft wink

That's not to say, though that if at any stage it started to become the wrong thing for them that I would reassess, and explore HE.

I shouldn't have had my dc so close together then at least it wouldn't feel like it is all happening at once. smile

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