For a variety of reasons, DH and I are thinking of moving our eldest dd to a different school. And I have no idea at what point to tell/consult her on the decision.
Our main reasons are:
- a lack of challenge in the classroom. She is not stretched at all.
- a lack of extra-curricular activities due to the small size of the school (no competitive sports teams, no end of year/Christmas plays)
- shockingly poor behaviour policy which means lessons are disrupted. Her class are apparently the worst in the school and whilst they are apparently reviewing the behaviour policy at the moment, I have low confidence in their ability to make effective changes.
- ongoing friendship issues between the other girls in her class. She tries to avoid the drama and consequently spends a lot of her time playing with younger children at playtime. She had a lovely friend who moved to New Zealand last year and she's been lost without her.
She's not unhappy at school but she's not happy either if you see what I mean. Part of me wants to ask her if she would like to move but then I'm not sure if it needs to be our decision. It's compounded by the fact that her younger sister is at the same school and is very happy there.
What would you do?