DD moved to a new school at the beginning of the year, into Y2. She seems to be settling in ok, but on a few occasions (including today) she's come home in tears because one girl in particular and her seem to butt heads. There's a bit of excluding going on from this other girl. But mostly I think her and DD are very similar personality types, so they rub each other up the wrong way. It came up at parents' evening and the teacher described it as 'there are a few girls with strong personalities in the class, including DD'.
It breaks my heart to see her sad. She was really happy at her last school, even though her old class had several very disruptive children in it and two outright bullies, but she didn't seem ruffled by any of that. Her new class seems much nicer, calmer, etc. But I think she's struggling to find her place in it. I think the fact that she's also gone from being one of the brightest/ most able in a class to now being more in the middle doesn't help and I think she's struggling a bit with how they do things differently at the new school and what the expectations are.
Is this something that will just sort itself out in time? Should I be intervening more with this thing with the other girl? We mentioned it to the teacher last time this girl really upset her, so they are aware of it, but I don't know if I should mention it to her mum too? Stage some sort of intervention with the two girls? I suggested a playdate to DD and she looked absolutely horrified! In general, I just tell DD to play with other children and to avoid this girl as much as possible (although on some days she'll come home and say they played together or did such-and-such learning activity together and it was fine).
On days like today I just feel utterly shit for taking her out of a situation she was very happy and settled in and making her go through this (even though we had to - we moved house).
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How long did it take your child to settle after moving schools (aka why are girls mean?)
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JoanLewis · 24/10/2019 16:54
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