My 4.5 year old DD seems unsettled and anxious in the last few weeks of nursery before the holidays and move up to Reception at primary school. I know some degree of anxiety/wobbles must be normal but it seems quite unlike her and I'm not sure how difficult she might be actually starting school. I suppose I just want some reassurance and/or any tips on how to help her. I was a bit anxious about school but excited too, so may have been guilty of mentioning children in the class, uniform etc a bit too much! She is my first and only child so it's all new to us.
Sorry this is long, thank you if you get to the end!
Background: she has attended the same nursery for about 2 years. She was fine when she first went there and settled in quite quickly. No tears.
She knows several children from her nursery who are starting the same school. She's had a home visit from her new teachers and 2 mornings at school (1 without me). They went reasonably well, only a little hesitancy on the way in and some exhausted crying after the morning alone. They said she was fine once there. Since the lead-up to those sessions, she's been extra clingy with DH when they have to part (it's me doing drop-offs though) and gets very upset before leaving the house for nursery. She has started saying she doesn't feel well or uses needing the toilet multiple times as a delaying tactic. She did have 2 brief tummy bugs a few weeks ago but as far as we know is well again now. Once she gets to nursery she has a good time and seems fine at pick-up. But we've been in late by 3 hours once for a full day and half an hour to an hour for morning sessions. I'm just worried this will continue when I try to take her to school!
Bedtimes are also extra difficult at the moment. She cries and delays just as we're trying to close the door (after toilet, bath, books, chatting). Lately has wanted one of us to stay outside the closed door/with her/upstairs, but falls asleep quite quickly as long as we do. I think we had one phase like this in January but apart from that it's unlike her. I think anxiety has affected her a little bit with the toilet (she seemed constipated and her patterns have changed; she isn't fully independent so needs us for this. Also she's had wee accidents recently) but DH and I do start to run out of patience when saying she needs to go again seems like an excuse to not leave the house or go to bed.
I'm really hoping the summer holiday with me (I'm a SAHM) will help her to relax and enjoy some quality time with me. It is the last day at nursery next week, so would not be so bad if it's temporary, but what if it continues over the summer and/or in September?
I'd appreciate any thoughts or insight into whether you are dealing with similar, thank you.
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HelloMist · 16/07/2019 12:36
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