Enjoys positive friendships; huh?

(31 Posts)
Arkadia Fri 21-Jun-19 18:10:42

What does the above phrase, from the report card (Scotland), mean?
Marks possible: always, most of the time, on occasion, rarely.

OP’s posts: |
RickAstleyGaveMeUp Fri 21-Jun-19 18:11:45

Means they're not hanging round with wrong'uns who either lead them astray or are willing to be lead astray by them, I imagine.

whiskeysourpuss Fri 21-Jun-19 18:13:03

At DS's school that would mean that he had good friends, played well with others & wasn't in the group of troublemakers

Savoretti Fri 21-Jun-19 18:13:51

Plays well with other children, takes turns, shares, sometimes taking the lead sometimes being led. Not just dominating everything, or meekly following

Arkadia Fri 21-Jun-19 18:20:01

So, "enjoys" in the sense of "has", rather than "takes pleasure from".

OP’s posts: |
Arkadia Fri 21-Jun-19 18:31:57

So, what would the opposite be? "Enjoys bullying/bossying"?

OP’s posts: |
FullOfJellyBeans Fri 21-Jun-19 19:07:37

"enjoys positive friendships" to me means they form healthy friendships i.e. reciprocal relationships where the kids usually get on well, can manage conflict and enjoy each other's company while allowing each other space for other friendships rather than one bossing the other around or volatile friendships where they're best friends one minute and enemies the next or overly possessive friendships or any other unhealthy dynamic that can sometimes come about with little kids who are still working things out.


Prestia Fri 21-Jun-19 21:32:58

Is she prone to telling tales and trying to boss others?

YourSarcasmIsDripping Fri 21-Jun-19 21:48:19

The opposite would be reluctant to join in with a group, enjoys playing only with particular children (to the point of obsession) etc.

I think they mean your kid has several good,healthy relationships,that all parties benefit from, quite possibly he's a peacemaker and isn't stuck into one particular group.

BlueBuilding Fri 21-Jun-19 21:48:28

So, what would the opposite be? "Enjoys bullying/bossying"?

I'd say it would be "Struggles to build positive friendships". So may lack social skills/ struggle to make friends. And they either are unkind to children who want to play with them/ bring out the worse in eachother/ put up with poor behaviour from their 'friend'.

CripsSandwiches Fri 21-Jun-19 22:03:35

So, what would the opposite be? "Enjoys bullying/bossying"?

It would say "sometimes struggles to form appropriate friendships"/ "Struggles with responding to/setting boundaries in peer relationships" or "tends to struggle in group situations" or "has difficulty in sharing the attention of close friends".

In primary school as well as learning academics kids should be developing their social skills so most parents want to have some insight into how their child's getting on socially.

Arkadia Fri 21-Jun-19 22:20:54

I still do find odd that one gets marks for "enjoying positive friendships", but there you go...

OP’s posts: |
HardofCleaning Fri 21-Jun-19 22:23:08

I still do find odd that one gets marks for "enjoying positive friendships", but there you go...

This seems a really odd thing to be bothered about. What marks are do you think they're getting? It sounds to me like a simple sentence to reassure you that you're child is doing well socially.

Social skills are a massive part of what kids are meant to be learning at school. Most parents want to know if their kids are well settled and happy socially or if they're struggling.

Bookworm4 Fri 21-Jun-19 22:25:06

It’s not marks, I’ve had 20 years of reports, it just means she mixes well and there’s no negative behaviour. What age is she? If you say 5 I will laugh🙄

SoyDora Fri 21-Jun-19 22:28:07

I don’t think the OP is saying that it’s a sentence written in her report, more that it’s a criteria that they assess for all children (hence the marks).

IceCreamFace Fri 21-Jun-19 22:28:43

Who gave them marks? Don't most parents want to know how their kid mixes with others when they're at school? If you're not interested just skim over it I guess.

blue25 Fri 21-Jun-19 22:31:07

It's not really that difficult to work out is it? I don't get the issue at all.

NoooorthonerMum Fri 21-Jun-19 23:11:46

Isn't it essentially just flagging up whether there are social issues or not? If there are the parents and the next year's teacher will want it flagged so they can be supported.

Arkadia Fri 21-Jun-19 23:30:33

Well, I had problems with the wording because I could make no sense of it.
Yes, it does come in a list of "criteria" that are being analysed, like "works accurately" or "checks his work" and "manages his emotions". As I said all the items in this list has "marks" from "always" down to "rarely".
I could have understood if it was written down in the blurb as a general comment, but instead it is singled out, so I was wondering as to what it meant.
(And yes, it does appear every year from the start I believe)

OP’s posts: |
twattymctwatterson Fri 21-Jun-19 23:49:23

Op I'm also in Scotland and my DD has just finished P1. Surely it's important to know not just how your child is performing academically but also socially? If your DC is scoring low in that area it could mean they have poor social skills which you'd definitely want to address. For us younger children it can (but not always) also be an indicator that there may be something else at play, ASD, ADHD

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies Sat 22-Jun-19 05:51:53

It’s a standard phrase from whichever report generator your child’s school uses. There’s no point in trying to analyse it.

Nix32 Sat 22-Jun-19 06:20:43

In England, it's a descriptor in the Making Relationships section of the Early Years curriculum - we have to make a judgement against it.

Knitclubchatter Sat 22-Jun-19 06:26:11

Really it’s pretty self evident? Refers to socialization.

junebirthdaygirl Sat 22-Jun-19 06:45:30

Your childs social development at school 8s as important as their academic achievements . And l presume you would want to know how they were getting on socially. It's an important part of life forever so obviously needs to be taken into account.

eurochick Sat 22-Jun-19 07:48:47

Is English not your first language? I can see how it could be confusing if read too literally.

To me it's pretty clear. It would mean gets on well with peers, is not isolated, is not bullied or a bully. What you would hope for a primary age child learning how to make their way in society.

Join the discussion

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet

Already have a Mumsnet account? Log in