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Is there such a thing as tutors for young dc who can't read age 6?(18 Posts)
I'm not sure what to do. Dd is on book band 3 and is not really getting it. She can do, run, can, and etc but struggles with other sounds. It's not smooth progress and the biggest issue is she won't really read with us. We can get two lines out of her, that's with bribes, promise of all sorts of treats, nothing... Just reading. We have tried over past year. I'm not sure how worried I need to be the school are not very open about this sort of thing. They almost reluctantly told me she was in the intervention groups.
Are there people around who would have techniques to help her get going?
Have you ruled out dyslexia or eyesight problems first?
If there's nothing physically stopping her progress then maybe she finds the reading material boring or you are putting too much pressure on. Reading should be fun.
Take the pressure off and make it fun again by reading to her more. Praise/reward her when she tries to read without being forced (eg brand or road/shop sign recognition), so her confidence is boosted.
If she won't read to you - read to her
We don't force her at all. Sometimes she won't read for a few days. We try and get her to read anything just a few words. Some sounds she's good at but struggles with most of them.
We drown her in praise, and we do read to her.
She seems to write, ok... Very basic but OK.
It's hard to know, isn't it? DD3 wouldn't read. Simply wouldn't. She was on really low book bands because she didn't want to read unless she was perfect, and you don't get to be perfect unless you read....so....that wasn't going to going well! She's reading perfectly fine now, in year 5, but still won't read for pleasure.
Which scheme? Is it phonic? Did she pass the PSC?
Maybe alternate lines or pages so you get through the book quicker so it's more fun.
Dd1 is like this for maths and it is painful.
Ideally reading several of the band 3 books a night to build up speed/stamina.
We had songbirds at home and did reading chest. Then later project x.
I'd suggest going back to basics and begin by finding out which sounds she actually knows.
I'd recommend this free course for parents on how to help your child read and write https://www.udemy.com/help-your-child-to-read-and-write/
There probably are but I don't think it would work well as at this age, for this skill, little and often is key. My middle DC just couldn't learn in a classroom environment so we did the 'dancing bears' scheme at home (with a sticker chart as it's a bit dull) and she was a very good reader by the end of KS1.
It seemed daunting but it was literally 10 minutes most days, my DH and I both worked, me very long hours, and we had eye patching to do hours a day on the same child (probably not unconnected).
Get a proper eye exam, and consider reading eggs - online phonics and reasing. It's a subscription, but there is usually a free trial code floating around.
I was a late reader and can sympathise with your dc: Reading was a struggle I would rather not bother with. By eleven the books I could read, with lots of effort, were written for much younger children. Enid Blyton finally convinced me reading for fun was a complete waste of time. So it is worth doing something about it while she is six.
You could try the Usbourne Puzzle books; only a few sentences and then you get to relax and do a puzzle. Also audio books to get her interested in stories. I am also in favour of reading to her and let her finish the last word in sentences. Try and get her to engage with books rather than seeing them as work.
You could try getting one of her toys to teach reading to and get her to help.
We found that if we didn't do it everyday it was MUCH harder to get DS to read. When we did it every day there felt like there was no choice and so DS found it easier to get on with. If we broke the pattern and not reading suddenly felt like an option then it became much more painful for my DS to read. I think it is understandable. Reading in the early stage is bloody hard work. Most children wouldn't choose to do something that is that hard. So I really suggest that you don't make it optional. Do it at the same point everyday. It is a bit counterintuitive but it may make it less stressful for your DD. And the other thing you might try is audiobooks. Even if reading is hard, it is a great way to have some independence and enjoyment for books. And agree with reading to DD, as often as is possible. Oh, and if the school books aren't great try the Reading Chest. My kids loved getting those books in the post and you can select a broader range of books.
There is certainly something like that in my area. There's a woman who works with children with dyslexia and just general reading and writing issues. She's not a tutor as such though (I think a tutor also attracts parents who want to prepare their kids for 7+ assessments or just push them to get ahead generally).
I would take her to the opticians just to rule
It out! My DS was the same going into year 1 he was on book band 2 and struggling. He got glasses and suddenly went up about 4/5 readings stages in the year and caught up!
I would get her eyes tested. My DD had lots of problems in Primary up to age 7. They noticed she had a lazy eye and since then she's had to have glasses and check ups every 6 months.
But she LOVES reading now and goes through at least 50 novels a year.
She's now 16.
My daughter used to describe the letters would 'not stay still', so for a time we tried coloured filters. But, the real reason was that she had bad eyesight and didn't think to tell us about it.
We only noticed when out walking one day and she couldn't see something in the far distance.
Are these phonics books? My neice struggled with these and it took a teacher noticing and giving her a ‘proper book’ to realise she should be in the advanced set.
Is she year 1 or year 2? and what reading scheme are they using?
You can get tutors for KS1 (I do some KS1 tutoring to top up terrible teaching assistant wages) but I honestly wouldn't for reading, unless you are worried about her progress in other areas too, you need a little and often approach which tutoring doesn't offer. In school I often get reluctant readers to read to teddy, or their pets, or to play games that involve needing to read bits, word searches, comics about things they are interested in etc. Reading a book is not the only way to practice reading and some children do just find books really boring (to be fair have you read some of the reading books? some of them are awful!)
If she is reading the odd word to you I would have a google of high frequency words and make yourself some flash cards and make a game of it - rules with the children I read with are 10 correct flash cards equals 1 sticker (I mix in new cards as they learn) 5 stickers in a week equals a little prize (pencil, rubber, that kind of thing) then once they get good we start building silly sentences. It needs to be a 5 minutes each day thing to work though, doing it in one longer block at the weekend won't help.