My son is in year 4. He is not on target in many areas, I believe that he is intelligent, I don't think he has any particular learning difficulties, certainly the school have not identified any. Last year he seemed to make some progress, but his current teacher is struggling with him, he won't write, he gets distracted, he distracts other children, he's upset her she tells me, but she doesn't seem to have a plan. We had parents eve last night and I left feeling awful.
I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD, I believe that my son probably also has this. I am going to go to the GP next week and request an assessment, but I think that will probably be a long process. He is verbally bright, good vocabulary, good ideas and understanding of concepts, his handwriting is awful, he's yet to master all the letter forms and frequently puts letters and numbers back to front. His reading is progressing and I think is either on track or slightly below where it should be.
What to do? My options as I see them are to take him out and put him in independent sector, I've just inherited some money and was going to move house, but I could stay put, up my hours at work and just about manage school fees, I wonder if 2 years in smaller classes with better role models would get him up to speed, more confident with learning and seeing himself as an able child? He's currently on a table with children with SEN because that's were the TA is and he needs poking to do anything. I worry one of these children in particular is a bad influence. The only local independent with a bus service is 'selective but not aggressively so' and I'm not sure he'd get in, the other alternative is to consider one with flexi-boarding or extended hours - which I'm worried he'd hate - I've no experience of boarding schools. Localish to us are Cheam, St Gabrials and Sherfield School. It may well be that his poor behaviour will mean that none of these will take him anyway.
Alternative 2 is Kumon classes - I think he will hate that too but it might be an incentive to buckle down if he knows he can stop if his school work improves.
Alternative 3 is status quo but maybe look at non-academic extra curricula that might help him with soft skills, music lessons or sports I had riding lessons as a kid and I'm sure it helped my self-esteem. Previously we've tried a few sports based classes and he's struggled to behave and then decided he didn't want to go back.
Sorry for the epic post - thank you to anyone who's read it all.
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Son not doing well in local state school - what to do? Advice please
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wonderstuff · 18/10/2018 17:16
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