DD aged 9 has always disliked school. She found her work difficult in infants and had very few friends from the beginning. We were relieved when she started at the juniors and had a new class.
Roll on three years later and she still says she hates school and on a bad day tells us that it is ruining her life and she hates her life etc etc. The next day she says she doesn't want to leave as all schools will be the same. Some days she comes home saying she has had the best day and would never like to leave her school! She struggles with her work and has no close friends; she is in a class with a group of very strong personalities whereas she is very gentle and loving. She is also quite socially immature and can be quite intense.
Her school is very very pushy but has a great reputation. My daughter loves the music side of things there and will always be up for joining concerts, practises after school etc etc. I have another daughter who will be starting at the same school in September - to be honest if she wasn't starting there, I would probably pull the plug.
The meltdowns are awful this summer holiday - she is in tears over nothing, telling us her life is awful, no-one likes her et etc. My husband tells me she needs to see a doctor as this isn't normal behaviour and she obviously has special needs. In my opinion, the girl that used to be so ridiculously happy (we used to call her Ray of Sunshine) is just sad and struggling. She asks for hugs all the time which in my opinion is just a cry for reassurance.
I am tempted not to send her back - my husband says that would be crazy, that it's an amazing school and she would hate all schools. My daughter agrees and says all schools will be awful. When I suggested we look at some others she immediately got excited and asked if that meant she could have a morning off in September!!! Not a great sign....and anyway, I don't even know if any have spaces around here.
I already have three school runs and it would mean getting to four....plus my other daughter would be starting on her own there. She wants to go as she has lots of friends so it's not an option to move her too.
I'm just confused. I've thought about taking her out of the school since she was five and am now left with a girl who cries all the time and I don't recognise....even though she says she doesn't want to leave. She certainly isn't flourishing there though - she is in bottom group for everything and has no friends. One of the main problem girls who refused to let her play has moved abroad over the summer and so I am wondering if the dynamics will change - perhaps even a new girl starting in September.
I just don't want to spend another two years seeing her deteriorate to the point where she is a depressed teenager : (
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Daughter (9) having major meltdowns and seems depressed : (
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Timetojump · 28/07/2018 23:47
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