violence against my daughter - Year 3

[Moodymmai1]

My dd has had persistent problems with a group of boys in her class . Today she came home from school and said they kicked her in the privates. Also they stood on her toes and pushed her against a wall. She has had problems with them in the past where they've interfered in her and her friends' games and upset them. I've spoken to the class teacher who has spoken to them. This time apparently she has put them on "Red". But nothing seems to change. I am sending her in with a letter for the class teacher and one for the Headteacher. I am seriously considering moving her to a different school as I am very upset, and also concerned she will have to grow up in the same class as these nasty boys. Does anyone have any advice?

[endoftether82]

No advice? But this is obviously awful. Sorry this has happened to your daughter.

If I was in your position I'd be going to see the head in person.

[wormery]

Ask to speak to the head teacher in person as a matter of urgency , ask what action they are taking to keep your daughter safe, ask to see the report they hopefully made after this incident, has she seen a doctor about being kicked and pushed, that is absolutely assault and you are quite justified in calling the police. If no action is taken I would contact your local children's safeguarding team, the school governors and Ofsted, the least I would want is for the boys to be removed from the class and a full investigation carried out. How horrible, I hope you can both stay strong.

[ShawshanksRedemption]

I would look at the school behaviour and bullying policies in the first instance so you are familiar with what the school can do. I would then meet with the Head to ask how they can safeguard your DD from any future incidents with these boys. In the school I'm physical contact like you describe would result in a one day internal exclusion and the boys parents spoken to. I would expect any investigation to look in the boys backgrounds as to why they are choosing this course of behaviour. They may need to be monitored at playtimes or have a separate playtime to other pupils if they are persistently showing unsafe behaviour.

Interfering in her games is annoying but can be quite standard behaviour for some kids looking to get a reaction. I would suggest you encourage her to check in with an adult each playtime to just give her some confidence that someone is looking out for her.

[As the kids involved are aged 7-8 and not yet the age of responsibility I doubt the police would be interested.]

[Starlight345]

I would also look up bullying policy . Insist they follow it . If they don’t follow complaints procedure.

Ask for a meeting asking how they will safeguard your dd

[Katjolo]

Meet with the head straight away. Go along with your partner of family member for extra support.

[LadyMonicaBaddingham]

Arrange an appointment with the head to discuss your concerns about safeguarding That word opens a lot of doors, and absolutely applies in the situation you have described. Interfering in games is fairly usual behaviour, but the level and type of physical intimidation you describe gives me cause for concern, especially seeing as the teacher is already aware of a problem...