I just want to post to see what I should be doing.
DD is very behind at school, teachers have mentioned her lack of progress since she was age 4, and have generally given us some extra work to do at home, with reading, writing and spelling. But now they seem a lot more concerned by it as she is now 7.
She is generally fine with maths - although not great. Her main problem seems to be spelling, although she does have trouble with speech and language which I am sure is related to this.
I just feel so bad about it all, as I am not helping her at all, despite wanting to. I am going though a gruelling divorce from her father, and have been in a state of constant stress for three years - and before that was just as bad because we were living together.
Unfortunately it has meant that she has a disjointed routine as she is sometimes with me and sometimes with him, she is also sometimes at after school club till late. She always ends up exhausted after the weekdays and weekends all over the place. I also work in a stressful job, so when we are both home together, and she's not tired, quite often I'm too tired to do any homework with her.
Her school gives her homework every night - and has done since reception, plus a big bit of homework at weekends. She has to practice spelling six words every night, and read a whole book every night. There is no way I can manage that, although now she has gotten better at reading she will usually manage to read her book most nights when she's with me.
I feel so bad, as I know if she had a stable homelife she would have a much greater chance of succeeding at school. But also I wanted to ask, how much should school rely on her practising it all at home? I prioritise her being rested at home, as she only gets limited opportunities to chill out, and I wonder how much value there is in forcing her to do spellings at 8pm at night for example when she should be tucked up in bed.
I will talk to her teacher a little bit about it, but I am sure she will just tell m what to practice with her at home, and tell me about the extra support she's getting in school. I suppose my point is, that without her routine getting better (blame her stupid father) I feel there is a limit of how far I can help at home.
Any advice welcome!
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Worried about DD age 7 - teacher worried about lack of progress
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wakingfire · 05/02/2018 22:01
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