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Bully? How do I approach the teacher!(6 Posts)
My 6 year old is in y1 Has just been diagnosed Asd and almost sure he’s going to get dyspraxia dx soon.
He is in mainstream has ehcp and good support.
Ds struggles socially he is very friendly and calm/ no outbursts and just wants to make friends - talks at other children rather than to them etc doesn’t pick up social clues.
He has told me that some children (older) ask him to do certain things then laugh at him.. I told him to just say no and walk away - but he wants to make them happy 😞 so does these things to make them laugh. - but they are laughing at him not with him - witnessed myself yesterday at breakfast club.
I am really happy with the school, but this is making me uneasy, how best should I speak t0 his teacher? What should I expect them to do?
Just so worried about it/concerned it may escalate.
Just ask the teacher when would be convenient for a chat as you have some concerns
Sorry I have done that, had to send a message and waiting a reply — won’t be till Monday I know.
Ds says he doesn’t know the names of the children, so can they/would they do anything or more likely keep an eye on him? I know the ones from yesterday that I saw. but have a feeling there are others.
Ask for an appointment after school, and express what you have just written. Teachers want to help children in their care - no need to be worried. If your son has additional needs, he will be on their radar. Appointments before and after school can be tricky to fit in, with staff meetings, extra curricular clubs and Key Stage meetings to attend. Be patient and polite (as I'm sure you are!) and ask. X
This is actually a common problem and in fact I've just dealt with it in my class, except I noticed it and notified the parents.
We've made a three pronged attack on it. The parents are reinforcing at home, I've done pshe sessions on behaviour and kind choices in class, and older classes have had brief sessions on appropriate behaviour at playtime with younger students.
We had a slightly similar issue, although what was happening to DS was not quite the same as what is happening to yours - I emailed first, detailed what had been happening and asked for a meeting. Teacher came to the meeting with a plan, which we discussed/agreed upon. I had things to do with DS at home (basically roleplaying responses for DS to use in the difficult situations) and teacher spent some time with DS too, plus sessions with the class somehow addressing the issue without directly addressing it IYSWIM. It seems to have knocked it on the head.
I emailed because I wanted a paper trail from the start, just in case it continued.