Hello ladies,
I am sure I am overacting and being 8 months pregnant with hormones all over my body doesn't help but I am having a terrible time with my son's school.
The background is that he is a summer born and very young one. He was moved from his reception class where he had settled well, and this is probably the origin of all of this upset. So the previous school was tiny village school and very nurturing. He was one of 2 boys and we thought it would not work long term so we took a view - probably mistakenly - to move him to a comprehensive down the road where some of his friends were going to help have a broader circle.
What I didn't know is that the new school had 20 boys and 10 girls and some of the boys are quite 'physical' - to cut a long story short, settling in was much more difficult than we envisaged, my son got picked on quite a lot, he got thrown around the playground, teased, excluded. Not by one child but by the group. And no amount of talking to the teacher has made a difference, she denies this is happening at all (although I have seen this in the playground myself and many other parents have expressed concern about the 'vibe'). So you can imagine that this has created quite a settling in process and has affected him. For example I see him walk to some children in the morning in the playground and trying to be friendly and being given the hard shoulder most times.
Now his report today really upset me as there is no acknowledgement of the difficulties he's been having. My son never had social issues before and the report says: 'his social communication skills are improving' and that, given more time they hope he will be able to make friendships. But have marked 'Making relationship' as emerging in his report. In a face to face meeting she told me that his listening was really good, and she has market 'listening' as emerging again. Finally, this one I expected as he is ambidextrous and hasn't chosen a primary hand, writing is also market it down as emerging, despite the huge effort he is putting into this.
As for reading, he reads fluently and by sight level 4-5 books and reads all the time, I had buy so many more books as the school could not keep up. His phonics are good and knows a large amount of tricky words. Reading for her is simply 'expected'. No mention of how much better he reads than the average (I went and read with the class).
I feel completely let down and deflated. Of course he doesn't know this and will never find out but I can't help feeling I made a huge mistake to move him and now there is no way to go back to the old school. I can only hope that the year1 teacher is going to be better at helping him integrate in the social environment. And also recognise that he has some strenghts.
Been sobbing all day and trying to work out if we can pull the finances together to send him to a small private school. I feel a complete failure today as a mom for inflicting this onto a 4 year old who is trying so hard but can't help being so young and new.
Sorry it's a really long post...
Thanks, any advice appreciated.
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mia1972 · 07/07/2017 21:55
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