My DS turned 4 in February and is doing well in pre-school, especially academically, he wants to learn, he can sit still and listen, he can hold a pen correctly, knows and writes a lot of the letters and numbers. He is also proficient at getting himself dressed, going to the toilet etc. However, emotionally he has always been quite sensitive, although he has good friends at pre-school, he really dislikes meeting new people and in new situations tends to hang on me, suck his fingers or t-shirt, whimper and cry. He has been like that since he was a baby to be honest. So now that he is starting school in September, we have had two settling in sessions and he has hated it from start to finish. None of the other children had their parents there (admittedly many of them know each other already) but I had to stay there the entire time both times. My DS had moments of being extremely upset, proper sobbing in my lap, it was heartbreaking to watch .
The question I am really struggling with is whether he will be fine once he starts schoold, or whether he is actually just not ready emotionally/socially. He says he doesn't want to go to pre-school or to school at all, he wants to stay at home, and I think he means that from the bottom of his heart.
It is not really an option for him to stay at home, even if we chose to delay his start in school to when it is legally required (April next year I think), but I guess if I thought he would actually be a bit emotionally damaged by starting school too early, then I would take that very seriously indeed.
Has anyone struggled in the same way with theirs, and what did you do? Did you have children who were similar but settled in just fine? Or children who actually weren't fine? Am I being to worried, is this PFB syndrome??
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PippiLongstromp · 05/07/2017 09:45
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