Last term DS (year 5) was getting distracted by one of the other children on his table who kept talking while they were supposed to be working. He was having trouble concentrating on his work. He told his teacher on many occasions that this boy was talking but apparently she didn't say anything to him (not in front of DS anyway). He put up with it for weeks and it didn't get better, despite telling the teacher so I asked if he could move to another table. For the first day or two everything was fine and DS was much happier but then he told me that there was a boy on the new table who was even worse than the first one. He doesn't stop talking and trying to make DS to laugh. DS tells me that even if he ignores him, they both get told off for talking. This boy keeps making fun of him and saying horrible things. When he told DS that it was a mistake that he was born I spoke to the FLO (because I couldn't get into school that day to speak to the teacher and I wanted it to be sorted quickly). I also mentioned about him talking too much and distracting DS. She said that she would speak to the teacher and get it sorted.
Unfortunately things haven't improved. DS comes out of school everyday upset about what this boy has said or done. Yesterday when I picked him up, he was so upset and angry that he couldn't get out of the school quick enough and it took him several hours to calm down. He was so frustrated in class yesterday because this boy was talking so much that he just couldn't concentrate and get his work done and he was also making fun of the way he talks. He hasn't spoken to his teacher about it because he doesn't believe that she'll do anything about it. He also thinks that he shouldn't have to keep moving to other tables. It makes him feel like he's the one in the wrong and there appears to be one chatty boy on every table so he'll just end up in the same situation.
I'm sure lots of kids would just laugh it off or tell him to shut up but DS has very low self esteem. He thinks no one likes him and he's stupid. His friends make comments about the fact that he writes slowly (he's had issues with his handwriting so he has to write slowly to make it neat) and therefore doesn't write as much as they do. He has already had to stop playing with several of the boys in his class (including the two mentioned above) because they always make him the chaser when they play 'it'. They know he can't run as fast as them so he can never catch them and they make fun of him for that.
DS was very happy at school but now he is miserable there and says he can't wait to leave and go to secondary school.
I'm going to speak to his teacher tomorrow to try to get this resolved but I need to know what action would you reasonably expect a teacher to take in this situation? Would you ask to have this boy moved to another table?
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Boy on DS's table distracting and upsetting him
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katalex · 18/05/2017 12:10
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