Hi all, just looking for advice/reassurance.
My DD has been friends with a girl in her class since they were very young. They knew only each other when they started school - now in Y5. During that time, my DD has developed a wide friendship group and her original friend less so. This girl is still very dependent on my DD for friendship, which my DD sometimes finds stressful.
I struggle because I really like her friend and because of my empathy with her home situation ( her father left very early on and now has no contact), sort of want to make things better for her. She used to come round a lot after school / holidays, but less so in the last couple of years as my DD finds it too much.
Reason for posting is that I've had a few calls from friend's mum over the years (we're fairly friendly), saying that there have been problems with my DD pushing hers, excluding her dd etc. I've always spoken with my DD about it, and her version of events are eg someone pushed past me and I fell against friend and said sorry, or I was just playing with someone else. I've witnessed them together a lot and can see that my DD finds her friend wanting to be close to her oppressive, by honestly don't think my dd is deliberately hurting or excluding her. I would be down on her like a ton of bricks if I thought she was.
We took them both out yesterday with other friends for a birthday trip, and it was really obvious how on the outskirts friend is. Not through unkindness, but just personalities etc.
Dh says that they're old enough to sort out their own friendships (true), but I find her friend's rebuffed attempts to be close to my DD painful to watch. I know that it's not my dd's job to solve this girl's friendship struggles, but I find it so upsetting to watch.
Thanks if you've got this far! Anyone been in a similar sort of situation? I guess me and other mum just need to keep in touch and support them where possible?
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christinarossetti · 03/04/2017 08:38
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