primary teacher/governor/anyone in the know

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

NC for this since it's a bit identifying.
My dc got into trouble at residential, illness(chronic) related.
I made my stance clear, not pursuing any responsibility against school.
But school's response towards my dc is not what I expected.
They haven't spoken to dc about how dc was, no body has asked dc how dc was, since dc returned.
When we went to pick dc up, we were told to keep dc at home until they return. While then, there was no asking how dc was on the phone, email etc. And upon return to school, they seem to act nothing has happened. I have left message for the teacher thanking for the help( went there with dc), but no reply.
Is this normal?

[PlaymobilPirate]

I'm guessing asthma attack? What would you like them to have done extra?

[Saucery]

No, it's not the way I would expect a school to react. Not even asking your dc how they are when back in class.?

[PlaymobilPirate]

Do you know they've not said 'oh, welcome back- how are you'? My ds remembers nothing about school!!

[Saucery]

Are you happy with the way their health condition is managed in school - is there a Healthcare Plan that all staff are aware of?

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

I am totally happy with how school handle dc. They are great.
It's not asthma.

It's really weird, dc said spoken the teacher(class teacher), but the teacher didn't even ask how dc was. That's what's really made me think what is going on????
At the pick up at school on the first day back, the teacher saw me, I was totally expecting the teacher to approach me and ask questions(the teacher normally does, when there's something), but the teacher totally ignored me! Am i being paranoid?

[Saucery]

I think if they manage it well and follow correct procedure it's disappointing they haven't responded in any way but can't see it's because of any reason to do with being wary of a complaint from you etc.
Perhaps they think you have updated and thanked them by email and that's the end of it.

[PlaymobilPirate]

I think if they cared for your dc during the episode then that's enough.. it might have been nice if they'd followed up with a 'how is he?' But if he's back at school then it's obvious he's fine really.

With potentially 30 kids it's possible that something else of high importance has happened (child protection incident / someone else falling I'll etc) or they were distracted making sure 30 kids had their mothers day card hidden in their bag... anything really.

It's hard, your school is the centre of your world but he's one of 30 for them.

[PlaymobilPirate]

**ill

[PlaymobilPirate]

Grrr - bloody phone. Your dc is centre of your world...

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

So do you think I should just forget about it and move on?

We found out a cause(maybe) to do with the venue. Nothing to do with school, really, and we are happy to let it go. But bit surprised by the reaction from school/teachers/TAs who went there.

[Saucery]

I'm not saying it's not important, because it is to you and it would be to me, too. I would also be disappointed not to have a follow up, even just a verbal one from the teacher. I just think there are so many reasons why they didn't react like you expected them to that it's not worth wasting any more energy wondering about it.

If there are factors in the venue that caused the episode I would send an email to the Head and Governors outlining them, making it clear you are doing so as the parent of a child affected by them and asking them to bear it in mind for future visits, whether your dc attends or not.

[Saucery]

They need to consider it in their Risk Assessment for next time. I.e smoke from a wood burner being a trigger for asthma for a child, or a type of strip-lighting contributing to a seizure.

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

Thank you, Saucery.
I can't say here, but the cause was avoidable, if careful.
I think the school would be more careful next time.
But I was expecting they would investigate, and tell us about it.(We easily found out the cause.)

I feel like I should contact the venue, but it's council run place. If I did contact them, do the school know? It's simply be a human error. So I don't want it to blow up. It happens. I know.

It's so weird, if the teacher asked my dc how dc was, and responded to my message, I would have forgotten it by now. (But my dh is so angry, and keep reminding me!)

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

PlaymobilPirate, thank you.

[Saucery]

Sorry, I wasn't trying to 'guess ' the cause, just two examples that came to mind from personal experience.
Personally, I would log it with the school (up to Governor level) and not contact the venue unless you suspect it won't have been recorded and investigated properly.

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

Sorry, I was going to bold your name, PlaymobilPirate !

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

Saucery, so do you think it's a good idea that I share what we find out with school?
If so, how would I do it? By email? or letter?

Luckily, my dc's case wasn't life threatening. But easily it could have been for other child. I am sure they will check in the future.( Both school and venue)

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

Saucery, can I PM you for the cause, and see what you think?

[Saucery]

Yes, certainly, PM me if you like. I can delete it afterwards if you prefer?

[Saucery]

Put the facts of what occurred, when and the cause as you know it. Email or letter is fine - letter as an attachment to an email copying in the Head and Chair Of Governors would probably be best.

[Witchend]

As he's residential age, I'd expect it to be a quick "How'y doing?" type question to your ds. I know he's said they didn't but I know from all my dc that if something is phrased in a slightly different way "all alright now? Feeling better for the rest?" etc. they can say in all innocence "oh they never asked".

[iamabitnotsureaboutit]

Thank you, Saucery. I have PMed you.

Yes, Witchend, it could be that!