Schooling dilemma here. It's keeping me awake at night - any thoughts appreciated.
I have a DD in Year 2 at an infant school. I need to apply for a place for her next year. I have 2 main options:
- 3 form entry junior school which the majority of her classmates will go to. The schools are not linked but there are no other separate infant and junior schools in the area. Junior school is not quite as well regarded as the infant school (a little disorganised, fluctuating results, some instances of bullying and poor behaviour). The girl/boy ratio is likely to be 20:10 (as in DD's class) which hasn't really been a problem for DD so far.
- 1 form entry Catholic primary school with a 8:20 girl/boy ratio. There are 2 places as 2 pupils have just moved away. I know families who go to this school and they are all seem v happy and say that current Y2 class is a nice and settled, but they could do with a few more girls. Reports of no bullying, family feel, caring school. Excellent results. Shot up the ranks in last year or so.
The other option is a 3 form entry primary school but not walking distance and traffic can be a nightmare, so have ruled this out as I'm trying to reduce stress levels.
And the reason I am considering moving DD from the set formula of infant-junior school:
I have been a bit disappointed with my experience of DD's infant school. DD has been happy enough and doing well but I have found the social mix not great. Parents move house to get their children into this school and say that they would choose it over a private school. I am not really sure why, it just seems to me to be a badge of honour to get in. Most families are very affluent. We are not poor but we don't have nice cars, and the swagger. I have felt a bit isolated if I'm honest, and whilst some parents are nice, I've found some parents won't even engage with us so have kept myself to myself. I would say quite a few parents are in shutdown mode for fear of being judged. (I know I probably sound ridiculous but it's made me stressed and unhappy and I think it affects how calm and confident I am as a parent). But DD has been pretty happy, albeit sometimes a little entitled and boisterous (but this could just be a 6 year old phase). I reckon the junior school will be roughly the same. Teachers have all been lovely but I have felt that school takes advantage of reputation and it has sometimes felt stale.
I thought maybe a fresh start will be good. I have a DS who will be starting YR next Sept so they could both go to the primary school together. But then I heard about the high boy:girl ratio and it has really put me off. I really wanted it to work, but I fear that DD won't have a big pool of friends. I am thinking about her secondary school years too. She would probably end up in the same secondary from either school.
Do I just need to get a grip and stick with the junior school?