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Yr 4 Bit annoyed at the new teacher!!!

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hackett Wed 19-Oct-16 13:42:07

Hi my 8 yr old daughter LOVES to read and she is very proud of her ability and expression and so am I very proud off her. She doesn't do so well at almost everything else but does try her best, so too boost her confidence we buy a lot off books. Yesterday the teacher got all the children to take turns in reading out loud to the class and as you can imagine my daughter was excited waiting her turn to use her talent bless her and read to her class. She read her part but froze when she had to read out loud the word bitch they must be doing something to do with animals. No other child's page contained this word. Anyway she froze and the teacher pushed and pushed for her to say it to the point off upsetting her to tears. I have parents evening tomorrow and I feel like calling her a b***h. Just interested in what you would all do and am I over reacting? also did the teacher know it was in the text?

irvineoneohone Wed 19-Oct-16 14:06:53

That sounds awful....
Once my ds was reading me a Dick King Smith animal book in YR1, the word came up. He didn't know...I froze. I explained the meaning, but also explained it can be a bad word, so he shouldn't say.
I am a foreigner, and I really struggle with these tricky situation. Don't know what is ok and what's not.
But teacher seems a bit mean. When teacher realised that dd didn't want to say the word, teacher should have read it for her and explain, or done something.

cansu Wed 19-Oct-16 18:30:41

Think you should probably take with a pinch of salt. She may have asked your dd to read it to try and show her that it's OK. Your dd may be quick to tears in this scenario. I can't imagine the teacher was trying to make her cry! I have had kids cry because they can't say a word or because their picture didn't come out right or because they have been asked to correct a mistake. Some kids are v sensitive and often worry about things being perfect. Only you know your dd but I would maybe ask the teacher why your dd was upset and take it from there.

yesterdaysunshine Wed 19-Oct-16 18:32:05

Bit extreme to want to call your daughters teacher a bitch because she encouraged her to say a word hmm

PigletWasPoohsFriend Wed 19-Oct-16 18:35:24

I have parents evening tomorrow and I feel like calling her a b***h. Just interested in what you would all do and am I over reacting?

Yes that is over reacting!

Coconutty Wed 19-Oct-16 18:39:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SuperPug Wed 19-Oct-16 18:40:16

Agree with yesterday...
It's great that your daughter loves reading.
But you're only listening to your daughter's side here. I'm guessing the teacher knew it was in the text as they prepared the lesson?
I would advise building a positive relationship with your daughter's teacher- calling her a "bitch" would be inappropriate and disrespectful. Cansu seems to have given great advice on how to phrase it at Parents' Evening.

irvineoneohone Wed 19-Oct-16 18:46:29

Sorry for being a bit clueless, but, so this B word, it's quite commonly used in normal situation as an ok word to say?
I literally froze when my ds read it without knowing it could be a swear word.
It's so difficult to raise a child in second language!!!!

irvineoneohone Wed 19-Oct-16 18:49:19

But yes, I agree with PPs , the teacher may have had some reason.
Sorry for being indecisive, it's really confusing for me.

GeorgeTheThird Wed 19-Oct-16 18:49:32

It is a word for a female dog (or other animal) and it's fine to use it like that. But the other (bad) meaning has been more common in the last twenty years or so, so people have started to avoid the word unless they are very involved with animals, and that is making things worse I think.

Ditsy4 Wed 19-Oct-16 19:21:26

Why don't you ask the teacher for her side of the story.

hackett Wed 19-Oct-16 23:28:54

Thanks for all the replies. I said I feel like calling her a b***h kind off different from actually doing it. My daughter was embarrassed to say the word and was then made to feel humiliated when being pushed to say the word which then turned to tears under pressure. The teacher did not explain anything after or step into help my child by taking over the reading.This is why i'm annoyed. Off course I will be asking the teacher her side off the story. My daughters best friend and mum approached me and told me as they were concerned.

hackett Wed 19-Oct-16 23:39:12

We live in a estate with many other kids and teens. Over the holidays complaints flew around about various kids swearing whilst out playing. So my daughter knows all the words but she also knows it would be wrong for her to do so. To this day I have never heard her swear.

kilmuir Wed 19-Oct-16 23:44:28

Well I think the teacher should have picked up on your DD's reluctance and taken chance to explain that bitch was ok word in that situation

llangennith Wed 19-Oct-16 23:51:59

See what the teacher says and ask her if she'd noticed how upset your DD was at being pushed to say the word. Then let her come up with her reasons.

jamdonut Sat 22-Oct-16 14:31:30

Personally, I would have just explained to my daughter that it is not a word to use about another person,as it is rude and unkind, but it is fine if it is to do with dogs, as it is the correct term to use for a female dog.
Is it really worth going to see the teacher about? Its a legitimate word, there was no reason for her not to say it.

strawberrybubblegum Sat 22-Oct-16 22:00:48

What did her teacher say, OP?

jamdonut - whilst it is a legitimate word, it's not unusual for a child that age to worry about saying it. The teacher must have anticipated she might, and I don't understand why she didn't step in as soon as she saw there was a problem.

Insisting the child continue without any explanation sounds at best thoughtless, and at worst deliberately shaming.

If I were the OP, I would want to understand very clearly what happened and why.

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