Homework-( not) helping?

[Robindrama]

Do you remind your kids about homework? Encourage, support, sit with them?
Dd in y4. She gets weekly spelling and maths.
I would like my dd to get more independent with homework/ responsible. Is year 4 a good time to leave it to her?
Would you go and speak to the teachers about it? Maybe after the first term to find out if dd does homework? Thanks

[redskytonight]

Since about Year 3, I've left the DC to it. I'll enquire what homework they have and ask how they are getting along as they go through the week. If they get project type work over several weeks, I try to gently encourage them not to leave it to the last minute. But ultimately I work on the basis that it's their homework and I am not having arguments over it. If they need help I am always happy to help but they need to come and ask. I also read with them daily.

[dementedpixie]

Ds does his homework at the kitchen table straight after school so I know what he's up to and where he is with it (he is in P6/nearly 10). Dd is 12 and is in second year at high school. I ask about her homework and give reminders to do it but don't have active input usually unless she is stuck with something. I think at primary school you should still be supervising/helping and that by high school they are more able to be leg to get on with things (that's my opinion of course)

[Galena]

DD has just started Y3 and I have told her that her homework is her responsibility now. I have suggested that she always do it the day she is given it, but I will not be forcing it - however, I have told her that if she doesn't do it, she will have to take the consequences.

I will keep an eye on it though...

[dementedpixie]

Ask your child if they've done homework, not the teacher. Imagine how that would look to the teacher if you have to ask them if your child hands in homework

[ayeokthen]

I remind him to check if he has homework and to do it, but I don't sit over him helping him. In P1 his teacher told us not to correct/help with homework as it means they can't identify areas where they're struggling (if they are).

[user789653241]

My ds started yr4 too. I needed to remind him about homework up to yr3, unless it's something interesting for him.
I really want to make him more independent this year, but I think it's not going to be easy. He had first homework on Friday, and while he took something out of his bag, he left it on the side and it's still there. Unless I remind him, it won't be picked up, I think.
If he forgets, he'll have to do it during break time, I think. I am tempted to leave it.

[KingscoteStaff]

In Year 6, we recommend a 'sandwich of support'.

You check they have a flat surface to write on/pencil/ruler/correct piece of paper. Then you get them to explain what they need to do and, at the very most, stick around while they write the first sentence or answer the first question.

Then you leave them to it.

At the end of the time allowed, you have a quick look at the work and (if necessary) suggest one sentence/question that could do with editing or improving.

Then it goes back in the bag and by the front door.

[yeOldeTrout]

I wouldn't speak to teachers about it.
Otherwise, depends on the kid.
DD was completely independent from yr1/2.

DS1 refused to do homework ever, after yr4/5.

DS2 I still have to hand hold & chivvy a little in yr8 (but I find this ok after DS1, plus DS2 was a total utter tantrumming nightmare about homework in yrs1-2) .

[LittleBoat]

You should know whether she is doing her homework or not. However I wouldn't push her to do it.

At that age I reminded them 3-4 times a week that "now is a good time to do your homework" and was always available to help ( but never to do it for them).

If they didn't do it they took the consequences at school unless I thought it was too hard or there was too much. That was when I would discuss it with the teacher.

[sonlypuppyfat]

I never made mine do their homework in primary school , now in secondary I just leave them to it

[Autumnsky]

I think it would be a good habit to do the homework the same day DC receive it. For a year 4 child, I would remind him to do the homework , but leave him to do it himself, only help if he ask for it.