This is the first time I've ever posted but need some opinions as I'm getting so wound up! This'll probably be a bit long...
My daughter's school give out an award to a child from each class every week, by the end of the year every child should have received one. As we're approaching the end of term and my daughter hasn't received one yet I thought I should check with the teacher that she hadn't been accidentally missed. After talking to him he was adamant she'd already received it, that she got it in the first week of school in September. Parents are invited to the assembly so I knew he was mistaken but told him fair enough and I'd check to see if she remembered as I didn't remember that at all. Unsurprisingly she is as certain as me that she's not had it and got quite emotional about it.
Feeling very akward (like telling a boss they're wrong about something!) I contacted a close friend who is a teacher at the school to see if there's anyway of checking who's had it. She phoned me back to say the teacher is still adamant she's had it but they'd checked a record and her name hasn't been ticked off. She said to leave it and he'd probably speak to my daughter about it the next day.
He didn't speak to her so my daughter approached him at the end of the day to say she'd not received it and got the same answer, that she'd had it in the first week. I have now been through the school newsletters as each week it states who has received the award. That first week a different child is named and also in the following weeks. Brilliant I thought, he'll realise now he's made a mistake. So today I have been in and he's said the same thing, that it was a long time ago so I probably can't remember her getting it, so I showed him the newsletters which he said must be wrong. He then said my daughter was very rude when speaking to him the other day and she more or less demand the award. Now my daughter is really quite shy and not bolshy like that at all but I let it go. Anyway, he's begrudgingly said he'll give it to her but she'll have to share the award with someone else.
My problem is I still can't let it go!! I am not a mother who intervenes with what goes on at school. I don't like to put my head above the parapet and complain but I feel he's just not listening to me and I feel really wronged! I suppose I expected/hoped he'd realise his mistake and would just be along the lines of 'whoopsie, my mistake, we'll sort it'. I really didn't expect a simple query to get so emotive. I've not gone in demanding she gets an award (although I suspect that's how he's viewing it) it's the principle of it and I don't want her to miss out unfairly because he's made a mistake that he won't accept or look into.
I now want to complain to the Head about how he's handled it and I desperately want him to acknowledge she hasn't had the award rather than making me feel like I'm making him do it. My sister's told me to let it go, that I've got what I wanted but I'm still so cross!
Would you complain or just get over it??!!
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