Yr 3 dd is in a small (80 pupil) village school. There is one girl who has caused issues throughout her time in the school with a number of the children. The yr 3 girls are constantly falling out and getting into fights and this girl seems to be the instigator of much of it. My dd gets upset by children being picked on and will wade in on their behalf. The other girl is always saying hurtful things to dd, pushing her about and trying to provoke her. When she succeeds dd used to lash out. This was addressed by the school in as much as dd (rightly) being told that lashing out was unacceptable and the class being given a general chat on playing nicely. Dd has tried removing herself from the situation but when she does the other children follow her and wind her up. I have asked on numerous occasions about why the children are allowed to harrass other children (it is not just my dd that experiences it). The only action that is taken is for the children to be told not to do it. There is no monitoring of it in the playground to ensure that it doesn't happen.
As a result there has been no let up in the harrassment. The children are offered the ability to go into the classroom if they are being picked on but that doesn't seem to do anything towards resolving the situation. The school says they cannot get involved in playground disputes and the children have to learn to get on with each other. Obviously they do need to learn to get on with each other but this hands off approach does not seem to be working.
Dd is very demoralised and can't see that the situation will ever improve. She feels that the other girl gets away with little or no censure but that she loses out by being provoked endlessly by her until she snaps and gets punished. In a small school it is very difficult to get away from your tormentor. Dd has been asking for months to move to another school but I thought it was important to try to learn to ignore the provocation but this isn't working and dd has no confidence in her ability to rise above it.
Is this time to move? Wwyd?
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dulcefarniente · 17/06/2016 22:20
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