Dd and her best friend are 6 and they have always been "lively" together, even 2 yeas ago at pre school they were always getting into mischief, and as it was the feeder for the local primary the key worker there recommended to the teachers that they be put in different classes for reception. The school is a pretty strict c of e school with outstanding ofsted rating and make it clear to parents they have v high standards and expectations of the children and don't take any messing around, I was a bit shocked by this considering they were only 4 year olds...
So anyway, they were put in different classes in reception which they both found hard for ages, but both made new friends and settled and still saw each other at break times, plus we carried on with play dates outside of school and I get on well with the other girl's mum so we got quite close over the year. We then asked for the girls to be put back together for year 1 this year and they were, but they soon got back into their mischievous ways and have been constantly told off for silly things like chatting at quiet time, silly behaviour and generally messing about. Now their teacher has approached me and the other parents separately and recommended the girls are split up once again for year 2 in September, and the girls are devestated. Their behaviour has improved recently with the threat of being split up, and it's never been unkind to others, just silly messing about wth each other, I can appreciate it must be annoying and hard work for the teacher and she obviously has their best learning interests at heart, but she's not taking their bond and close friendship into account and the emotional and social aspects of being split up. She is young and doesn't have children herself yet, so she doesn't really know what it's like to cope with the emotional impact it will have on the girls.
Would you go with the teacher on this and agree to them being split up? I can't help feeling they are still so young, surely thy will grow out of it soon? It's just silly things like chatting and giggling, pulling faces, but the school has such high expectations that I worry are unrealistic at 6? I know the teacher puts their learning and discipline / behaviour in school first, but can it be balanced with their emotional / social needs as well? What would you do if it was your 6 year old?
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Buttercup9 · 20/05/2016 17:05
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