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Advise please.. Teachers questioning my 8yr son..

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Trinity3three Thu 28-Apr-16 12:11:13

My son has been questioned in school about our home life!
Do your parents argue?
Do they shout?
Do they fight?
How do they discipline you?
What make mummy and daddy angry?

My son is a happy normal 8yr old we had trouble with another child in the class and his gang (another teachers sonin the school) it was a horrible situation and I don't feel the school have dealt with it at all and now the teacher will not talk to me or my child..

Are a school allowed to ask these sort of questions and why would they..

So upset ...

blueskyinmarch Thu 28-Apr-16 12:16:11

Yes they are. I work as a SW in child protection and if the school called us with a concern for a child then we might ask them to speak to the child asking questions like that, to gain more context around an incident. The school have a responsibility for the welfare of your child and if they have a concern then they have the right to speak to the child and ask some questions. I would hope that the schools we deal with would ask more open questions than those though!

Trinity3three Thu 28-Apr-16 12:22:43

It's a TA that is asking. My son is really upset being asked these questions and feels scard.

mrz Fri 29-Apr-16 17:36:02

If there was a concern the school would not ask what might be construed as leading questions and it's something we are strongly advised against in safeguarding training. I'd be concerned if a TA was asking such questions.

SnapCackleFlop Fri 29-Apr-16 17:37:51

Are you in Scotland? It sounds a lot like the Named Person bollocks.....

Hulababy Fri 29-Apr-16 17:42:17

In what context was it?

As mrz says - if there was a concern it would not generally be approached in this way. The questions are leading, and would be against safeguarding advise. They'd be far more open questions, and normally be done in a less obvious manner too.

However, the fact that is was a TA is not the concern - sometimes the TA would be the appropriate member of staff, more so than the class teacher. However, it depends on contact, way it happened, why, where, etc. as well as the role of the particular staff asking (regardless of job title.)

The fact that your son is upset means that I would, as a parent, want to ask the school what had happened and why.

mrz Fri 29-Apr-16 18:51:07

I would be concerned if a TA was asking these questions just as I would be concerned if a teacher or dinner supervisor was asking them. If there is a safeguarding concern staff should not be questioning the child!

YesterdayOnceMore Fri 29-Apr-16 18:56:10

Have they been asking him one to one, or is it a class discussion thing? Are theylearning about emotions- that parents can shout, argue etc and that's ok so long as it doesn't get out of hand? I guess he could be having a one to one with the TA learning about emotions to help with the bullying?

MrsKCastle Fri 29-Apr-16 20:17:29

Like Yesterday I wondered if it was a general discussion about arguments etc. Even so, I still wouldn't be asking closed questions like that, I'd be asking much more generally about the sorts of things that make people angry and how we can tell.

I would be very concerned about a one to one conversation asking those types of questions.

mrz Fri 29-Apr-16 21:01:43

The questions really don't relate to bullying or dealing with peer relationships they are directed at the family situation.

admission Sat 30-Apr-16 18:17:05

Those kind of direct fairly closed questions should never be being asked if this is related to a safeguarding issue. They should be open questions to allow your son to say what he wants to say, not put words in his mouth.
It would, as others have said, be appropriate potentially for school to be trying to establish answers they might have if there were questions in their minds about home life but not in such a manner.
I think that you need to have a conversation with the head teacher, who will probably be the designated officer for safeguarding in the school. Ask them why these types of questions are being asked of your son, which has caused him upset. If you do not get a satisfactory answer then if you want to take it further then go to the designated officer in the Local Authority (quite often called the LADO) and ask tell them that you have concerns about the questions the school are asking your son, that have caused him upset. Ask them to investigate whether the school have acted appropriately.

starry0ne Sat 30-Apr-16 18:25:16

I would be asking in school about this.. I would not be asking these questions as safeguarding.

peacheshoney Wed 04-May-16 16:27:02

Is it just your DS? It isn't one of those stupid government health and well being questionnaires is it?
I would be furious if it were a member of staff grilling my DC about such things.YANBU

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