Wemoved house last year to a rural area, had a new baby and changed schools for ds (7), who has gone from the biggest school in the city (close to 800 kids) to a wee village primary school of around 70 kids.
Ds2 (5) started school at the same time as him in P1 at the new school and is getting on swimmingly, despite the fact that he also came in not knowing anyone. He has made friends, settled in really well and loves school.
Poor Ds1 though is really struggling. He is in a mixed year group of P3,4,5 and is the youngest in his class.
He's always been academically bright - his reading is way up at a P5 level and his maths is amazing too. It's socially where he is struggling.
Ds1 is a bit different - has always preferred the company of girls over boys, isn't really into football and loves playing video games, whereas the other boys in his class love playing football and have known each other since nursery.
I thought he was finally settling in, having started last summer, but got a phone call from his teacher yesterday asking me to go into a meeting with her to discuss his behaviour in class and that she is really worried that he's not settling. :(
I make a point of asking him every day how his day was, who he's been playing with etc and he's given no indication that he's rally unhappy. He does occasionally tell me that he had an issue with one of the boys in his class who has adhd and has seemed to focus on DS1 as a target of sorts,but when I try and whittle down what has actually happened, I can't make out if DS1 is being a bit sensitive or if the boy is actually bullying him a bit.
DS1 is really not happy at school. HIs behaviour at home has changed too - he was always my strong dependable one, the one who was happy go lucky and well-behaved and well-mannered, but now I get lots of attitude and cheek from him, which when I ask him why he's doing it, he says he 'doesn't know'.
I'm really worried for him. He keeps saying things like 'I want to go back to my old school' and talks about how he has no friends apart from his brother (which can't be good for him either). I don't know what to do.
It's a lovely small village and we do as much social stuff as possible. He always gets invited to parties and stuff, and goes. He is clearly so very unhappy though and it's been a long time now.
What can I do?
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DS (7) not settling...advice/help please!
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bletheringboys · 21/04/2016 13:43
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