lhrmum - I totally understand being disappointed. Believe me, I have been through it. About 2 years ago, my family moved back to the US after our expat assignment. I applied to the top 3 private schools in our area. I knew that getting 3 kids into a top private school would be difficult. There is very little turnover in our area. Families stay and rarely move. My oldest who is bright - top percentile on tests and part of John Hopkins Center for Talented Youth - was declined the first time she applied to our top choice. My other two children got in. She never finished her entrance test and thus would not score well. I never prepped her for it and did not think it was a big deal - meaning that she would do well given her intelligence. I told the school that the test did not reflect her academic ability. She had stellar recommendations and report cards. Ideal student. But the test scores mattered to THIS SCHOOL. The following year, after prepping her, she did an amazing job. She scored 100% in the math and quant sections. English, Reading, Vocabulary she was in the 89th+ percentiles. School was amazed! I reminded them that I said that test a year ago was not a reflection of her. That year she got a spot. This school does interviews / "shadow days". I have learned from a teacher who I am friends with that the interview / shadow day is just an opportunity to make sure the student matches the application and there is no bad match. The student would fit in. This teacher also told me that schools do get recommendation forms that are not outstanding and discreetly point to an issue the child may have such as - being distracted, short attention spans, etc. Interviews I think help schools figure out a preference over a candidate and ensure the child matches the application just like grad school or college interviews.
I would definitely call or email the school and ask for feedback. How can you strengthen your child's application for next year? They (ASL) don't charge you a fee for reapplying. When I asked this at our US school, I was told - test scores. So I focused on that. Our school will tell families if their child is just not qualified so they don't keep applying. At this school test scores were very important to them since they bragged about them. Siblings had a preference but not a priority. Meaning the sibling would get an open spot over a non-sibling only if all other things were equal. It is not a family school. It also did not matter that my husband worked for a company which many parents at the school came from. These families have always been known to be very active at school - PTO, volunteering, donating time and $$.
I don't know but wonder how many applications the school gets? How many on average per grade? At our US school we use to get over 150 applications for 30 kindergarten spots. The other 30 went to siblings. Tough to get in. I have to assume given London's expat population and if you consider locals who like ASL, the applications received must be huge!
Don't give up!!!! I've been told the Admissions office is very nice. Reach out to them and say you were disappointed. What can you do to improve your application for next year? What did you DS lack compared to those WHO DID GET IN? This really helps no matte what school you plan to apply to.
I was told by someone today who has children at ASL (many, many years) that the lower school is not as challenging as the British Schools. ASL's academic in middle and high school are very good.
My oldest who I wrote about will be attending ASL next year. She got in. My other child was wait listed. I'm crossing my fingers spots open up after re-enrollment forms are turned in.
Best of luck!
By the way - did you look at Southbank? I know the school has the scandal, some admin issues with the State, and it's a for profit school. But I met a parent who is very happy there.