called into school re ds behaviour.(7 Posts)
Morning - I have a meeting with ds's year 4 teacher this afternoon to discuss his "behaviour and attitude in class".
Ds was diagnosed with epilepsy as a baby but thankfully appears to have grown out of it ( off mess for 2 years now - yay!) he was non verbal until be was 5 and showed autistic tendencies which I put down to the mess he was on - he was assessed at 5 and presented with an atypical spiky pattern but wasn't diagnoses as such.
He has always been a child who is easily distracted and can be difficult to keep on track if it's something he's not really interested in - his avoidance tactics include day dreaming, messing about, acting the clown and simply disappearing somewhere else if he can get away eg will ask to go to the toilet in school and doesn't come back until someone goes to get him. This has led to soiling as the way his teacher dealt with it last year was to give him 5 minutes timed toilet break and he was too scared to do a poo cos he didn't have enough time - another story but that's resolved.
To my mind he is a couple of years behind socially and emotionally and acts more like my 6 years old instead of nearly 9. Gets very upset if he thinks he's in trouble and hates upsetting people but this is always after the effect - doesn't appear to realise that his actions could cause trouble.
He had TA support up until last year which the school withdrew as they had assessed he no longer needed it - no IEP this year either.
His class teacher taught him in year 2 and I know she is able I handle him and usually keep him on track so the fact she has called me in is concerning me a lot
Any ideas of how I should handle this meeting or things I can suggest to help resolve the situation? I asked ds why he was messing about and his words were "my brain just makes me and it's too noisy so I can't concentrate"
I would suggest to you see a gp asap to get him assessed for asd and sensory issues. It could take a when to see a Paed unless you can go private. Sounds like he desperately needs supporting and is really struggling with the school environment.
Also post on the special needs board. The posters are incredibly helpful.
<<I would suggest to you see a gp asap to get him assessed for asd and sensory issues.>>
^^Strongly agree with this.
I'd handle the meeting by asking the school what they were planning to do to support his needs - they must agree he's got some if they were supporting him before. Point out that their assessment that he no longer required extra support was clearly wrong and ask them to rectify this - better yet, you outline the support you think he needs. Then email them after the meeting with a summary of what you've requested and why, and what you think has been agreed with timescales.
I'd ask to see the senco at school too. Even with no diagnosis they can put support and strategies in place for your ds.
Don't assume that he is in big trouble, it could just be lots of little things or the start of problems which they want to nip in the bud.
Dd finds it very useful to be able to move around and work where she wants to and sit/ stand / lie in different positions to work. Fortunately her school encourages this.
Refreshing to see apparent who knows what their child is like and willing to help!! Good start!
Good advise on asking what they plan to do, but also have some ideas that you do at home. How do you keep him on track? What could you do to help concentration at home/homework?
Both sids want to help him, so he's in good hands.
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