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I should just drop thus shouldn't I?

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twofalls Fri 08-Jan-16 21:21:15

Dd didn't get her homework award at the end of term assembly before Christmas. She is a diligent and hard working pupil and was the only one in her peer group not to get the certificate. She asked her teacher why and was told she didn't score enough points. Dd said she thought she should as had always done her homework, got good marks etc. She was upset when we left school and the head stopped us to ask why she was crying and so I mentioned it. Later that day she copied me in on an email to dds class teacher asking her to check at the beginning of this term and saying she was surprised in hindsight dd was not on the award list.

I didn't hear anything more and so emailed class teacher (not head) this morning asking if it would be possible for her to check the scoring for the award as dd had been quite upset at not receiving it when she works very hard. dd came out of school today holding her homework award, but it was just given to her on the way out of the door as a bit of an afterthought - no apology, no explanation.

I think dd should had received an apology for the mistake but I need to get over it don't I and just let it go?!

TheTroubleWithAngels Fri 08-Jan-16 21:25:06

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twofalls Fri 08-Jan-16 21:42:58

I know. And I will. But I am still a bit cross grin

irvine101 Fri 08-Jan-16 21:45:18

No, I don't think you should. Your dd worked hard, so she should get her award properly as other children did. This is really demotivating for hard working child. I wouldn't let it go.
(I wish my ds was hard working like your dd! smile )

multivac Fri 08-Jan-16 21:45:26

Either drop it; or put that energy into finding out why there's a 'homework award' at all - what it's supposed to achieve, and what the impact is on kids who, for example, don't get it (like your child), but 'deservedly so'.

TheTroubleWithAngels Fri 08-Jan-16 22:55:16

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Needaninsight Fri 08-Jan-16 22:59:03

Yes. You should. Move on.

Well done on her work though!

irvine101 Fri 08-Jan-16 23:21:17

I can understand that sometimes these things happen, but I think the teacher should have at least apologised to her for mistake.

Blue14 Sun 10-Jan-16 07:47:59

I think the rectification of the error IS tantamount to an apology, just make a big fuss of DD , congratulate her, put her award up on the wall, etc.

BitOutOfPractice Sun 10-Jan-16 08:13:51

Is your dd just happy she got it. Or is she upset she didn't have the big fanfare?

And well done to your dd. She sounds like a star! star

twofalls Sun 10-Jan-16 08:39:50

She is quite fixated on the fact all her friends got the award during the end of term assembly and she didn't. She was crying when she asked her teacher to check it as she couldn't understand why she didn't get the award when she worked so hard and was even more upset at her teachers refusal to double check. So I think she is mostly upset at the unfairness of it. Getting it given to her without further explanation at the end of school didn't really help to be honest but I think she has moved on, unlike me grin(although I am not letting on to her obviously).

irvine101 Sun 10-Jan-16 09:10:57

flowers for your dd. Seems like I'm a minority here.
I hope she gets what she deserve next time. smile

BitOutOfPractice Sun 10-Jan-16 12:12:56

I don't think you are a minority. Obviously it's a damn shame that it was missed. But what's to be gained from flagging it now. Especially as it would be hard to pursue it now without coming across as a bit of a knob

ThumbWitchesAbroad Sun 10-Jan-16 12:20:46

That sucks for your DD but it would seem the teacher is being pretty sour grapes about it - she didn't give your DD an award but has possibly had her arm twisted into it. I wonder why? If she genuinely missed your DD, she would have apologised to her anyway , I would have thought - the fact she hasn't suggests to me that there is possibly something else going on.

I could be wrong though - maybe she was just grumpy because she did miss it, and was too embarrassed to apologise because she didn't want to admit to a mistake.

Either way I'm glad your DD has got the award and unless anything similar happens, or your DD has trouble with the teacher, I'd let it go now.

twofalls Sun 10-Jan-16 13:51:22

Bit you hit the nail on the head - if I pursue it, I look like a knob so I won't, but I don't think it was resolved satisfactorily.

Thumb - I do worry this teacher has a bit of a thing about DD. She is quite quirky (her last teacher loved her but they totally clicked) and dd thinks she is really tough on her. I think I will just keep an eye on things. I don't want to make things worse by keeping on about this.

Thanks for all the thanksfor DD.

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