DD had two good friends last year in Year 2, but is finding things hard at the start of Year 3. It's a school with one Year 3 class and one Year 3/4 class. DD is one of approximately 10 Year 3's in the split class (but only four Year 3 girls)
Last year's Friend 1 (also in the split class) is siding with another girl against DD, saying she can't play with them. Today they have told DD that she must promise not to play with them until November 1st (?!). There are various other mean things being said.
Last year's Friend 2 (in the Year 3 class) is telling DD that she wants to play with her 'new' friends and that DD can't play with them as she's not in their class.
I realise I only hear one side of this, and who knows if DD is being mean too? My instinct is that she isn't being mean, just wants to play and join in.
I don't know how to help DD for the best (I'm a loner who never really got the best friend thing). You can't make kids be friends, after all. But what's the best way to help DD, who is very miserable now? Talk to the teacher? Talk to the friends' mums? Tell DD to play with someone else? It's really hard for her to integrate I think: the Year 4s play with each other, and the two Friends are making it hard to play with any of the other children she's got on with in the past.
I'd love some advice, especially from those who are through this and out the other side!
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How to deal with "you can't play with us"?
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virelai · 05/10/2015 18:03
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