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When/why do teachers move children's chairs/seats about?

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trickydickie Wed 30-Sep-15 22:18:44

Dd is 7. We are in Scotland so been back at school for 8 weeks now. She has been sat beside a boy who really annoys her. She says teases but think they just have a difference of opinion. She also says she can't concentrate because he constantly talks and she says she is struggling now. Think petty stuff is going on. He is shoving her jotters and stuff to the end/side of her desk.

This boy was sat next to her last year and the year before and every year after 8 or so weeks I have asked the teacher if she could move my daughter away from him Every year the teacher has kindly done so.

Would you ask for your child to be moved? She is my third child down and is the only one I have had to do this for. The other 2 never complained about anyone.

The schools break up week after next for half term. Should I probably leave it til then and see if the teacher moves the tables anyhow?

MMmomKK Wed 30-Sep-15 22:25:31

If this bothers her and she can't concentrate - I would definitely mention that to the teacher. She doesn't need to suffer!

Geraniumred Wed 30-Sep-15 22:28:28

I'd probably ask for her to be moved, just in case it doesn't happen. It is a simple enough request and easy enough to do. It can be terribly distracting if you are sat next to someone who is constantly aggravating.

trickydickie Wed 30-Sep-15 22:31:01

Thanks. I don't feel like a precious third time mum! I will try and speak to the teacher tomorrow.

starlight2007 Wed 30-Sep-15 22:37:47

My DS has sat in 3 different places so far.. Each time he is moved I think well that won't last..

shouldwestayorshouldwego Wed 30-Sep-15 22:55:03

Definitely ask for a move. We left it too long with psb and in the end moved schools because it escalated so much. Each move was next to another distracting child and dd got worse and worse. Very happy now in a different environment. Is she next to the child in the register? Seems unlucky to have same child three years in a row. Maybe try to talk to next teacher before they return after holidays.

cece Wed 30-Sep-15 22:56:42

It's not a big deal. Just ask politely and explain why.

trickydickie Wed 30-Sep-15 22:56:49

Made me smile starlight.......well that won't last...

OldBeanbagz Thu 01-Oct-15 07:48:57

I would ask for your DD to be moved and then next year mention it to her teacher before the new year begins. Point out that you've had to ask on a number of occasions so it'd be easier if she wasn't put next to him in the first place.

I've just had to go in to speak to DS's teacher as he's sat between a singer and a girl with pointy elbows grin

TellitToTheTrees Thu 01-Oct-15 07:55:25

I'm a teacher and I wouldn't mind if you asked. Sometimes the petty, annoying interactions between children sitting together can be easy to miss when you have a whole class to deal with but I understand how irritating they are for the children and how easily they can be solved.

We have a very disruptive child in my class, his mother has specifically asked that he doesn't be sat on his own but he disturbs every child he sits next to. At least by moving seats around every now and then it isn't the same poor soul stuck next to him all term! (He's bright and a nice enough boy btw he just has to interfere with everything <frustrated face>)

Keeptrudging Thu 01-Oct-15 08:02:51

My DD was the unfortunate 'quiet/works hard' child that all the way through primary ended up with the 'annoys everyone/attention span of a goldfish' child next to her. She used to get upset because some teachers would give a general row to her table in an effort to not be singling out the annoying child. I would speak to the teacher if it's upsetting your daughter, they may take pity on her and change seating.

Cedar03 Thu 01-Oct-15 12:46:28

Last year my daughter's class moved round every week as they were split up with more able sitting next less able.
In previous years at some point someone has been moved round which I've always assumed meant children were annoying each other or the teacher!

steppemum Thu 01-Oct-15 12:52:39

My DD was the unfortunate 'quiet/works hard' child that all the way through primary ended up with the 'annoys everyone/attention span of a goldfish' child next to her.

that is dd1.

last year she was taking all her pencils out of her bag one morning. What's that for? I asked.

Oh, she said quite matter of factly, it is my turn to sit next to xx this week and he breaks all your pencils, so I won't take mine in.

trickydickie Thu 01-Oct-15 23:12:47

Thanks everyone. My dd2 is very studious and works very hard (so I am told by teachers and I know personally she is a total people pleaser). For years she would give a moan about whatever annoying boy sorry child she was sat next to. Actually there are a couple of girls in her class too who are annoying to others. I never said or asked the teacher to move dd2 as thought well they all just have to grin and bear it and after a few months she will be moved. I feel guilty now for never asking for her to be moved after a few weeks with said annoying child.

Dd3 just complains louder. So every year I have had to ask the teacher to move her away from this boy. I've not done it straight away I have left it a few weeks. Anyhow. I phoned at 2pm today (first chance I got and remembered blush) Dd said teacher told them this afternoon they were moving desks tomorrow grin.

Thanks everyone.

Ds1 (my youngest) I can see being that annoying boy. I can see many a girls parent phoning up and asking for their daughter to be moved away from him cause he is so annoying. He has the attention span of a goldfish and all of life is a just a laugh!

Anyhow dd3 has got her move. Life will be happy again. For a while at least.

HeisInfuriating Thu 01-Oct-15 23:27:15

I have this with DD
She is similar in academic ability to the most annoying boy in the planet (of her class). He never shuts up. Ever. Seriously never shuts up.
I won't belittle the poor boy but he hasn't had DD opportunities in life shall we say.

After the first two years, I ask for her to be moved, for her to have a break. Every year they oblige. This year, for the first time ever, he is not on her table. Hooray. Touches wood......

Millymollymama Sat 03-Oct-15 14:37:22

In very small schools, it can be very difficult to move the annoying children around because few children are working at the same level.

I asked for DD to be moved in our larger infant school because the child next door poked her with a pencil all the time and when he was asked to stop by the TA, spent the rest of the lesson under the table refusing to come out. The teacher said he was next to my DD because she was tolerant. I said I wasn't!

This behaviour came to a head at junior school when his Mum refused to send him to school because he was bullied. Obviously she was not aware of his poking, prodding, annoying habits and other difficulties - largely refusing to do what he was asked to do. Children, not surprisingly avoided him. He ended up going to a grammar school though and I guess he calmed down.

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