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Stupoid question, please help... If you want to move your child to another school but

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JoyceDivision Sat 20-Jun-15 21:37:01

... schools are fully subscribed.... is it just an outright no?

Are there plans to follow where it can be considered?

Am concerned about ds and a bully in his class.... if situation is to a point we would want to move schools... is it really impossible?

midnightvelvet01 Sat 20-Jun-15 21:43:12

I moved both my primary aged boys last year to a school that was oversubscribed.
I phoned Admissions and asked to go on the waiting list and prepared for an appeal, before the appeal date I got the phone call to say they had a place.
You do need to give the old school a chance to sort out the bullying though, as admissions will ring the school for clarification.

JoyceDivision Sat 20-Jun-15 21:49:48

midnightvelvet01 Thanks for the reply.

The school are dealing with the issue, however the child concerned is just by nature very very physical and aggressive, yet to his family is a saint. The teacher has been rather unhelpful (this has been fairly obvious but after a conversation with another parent I became aware of a comment made where any issues had been denied!) the head has been involved, and is aware of the behaviour issues of the child.

DS is very positive, but quiet, friendly and inquisitive, yet in the class most boys are big sports kids and very physical.. this child is zoning in on ds and how he won't retaliate to any threats or attacks so is an easy target. the 'core' tend to play with him, ds is terrified of him, hence is not really getting to be a strong part of a social groupin his class.

I am gutted for him.
Really appreciate you replying, it is a big help

Smartiepants79 Sat 20-Jun-15 21:51:46

If schools are full then it's not going to be easy especially if your son is in KS 1.
I think you may be able to put his name on a list so when a place comes available you would be told and offered a place.
Children are sometimes moved because of behaviour issues but in my experience its the perpetrator that is moved and only after every other avenue has been explored. Before anyone steps in an 'forces' a move for your child you and school will have to have shown that everything has been done to resolve the situation in school first.

howtodrainyourflagon Sat 20-Jun-15 21:52:34

If your DS is y3 or above infant class size regulations don't apply so he could join a class that's already "full" on appeal. If your DS is in infants there's less hope.

JoyceDivision Sat 20-Jun-15 22:01:25

ds in yr1

have copies of email to school and now making notes of conversations

ds will not speak up, he will just put up, shut up and pretend all ok. But alarm bells are ringing in that he has asked to do sporty stuff after school that he has no interest in which I am sure is because it is what the 'core' group of boys do and he is trying to fit in, also asked to xfer to packed lunches from dinners which he loves but won't give any reason, am sure this is so he will be in separate lunch section to the school dinner kids which includes the child concerned....

arghhh!

PettsWoodParadise Sat 20-Jun-15 22:34:19

Going on a list for another school can work really well but it does depend on the admissions criteria of the school if not using the appeal route. For example if they go on distance and you live two miles from school then anyone else moving closer to the school and applying after you will go on the list above you. Hopefully that doesn't apply and hope all works out for you but wanted to mention as I've heard of DCs on lists for years before the parents up sticks and move half a mile up the road once they properly understand why they just aren't getting a place.

JoyceDivision Sat 20-Jun-15 23:12:05

thanks... No set plans yet but I am watching this at start of new school year. Am livid that ds who is such a fab little chirpy boy is having possible friendships ruled by having to keep away from this one child and therefore staying away from a lot of the kids in class.

littlecupcake Sun 21-Jun-15 07:16:01

Sounds awful. But you are close to the end of the year. Could you ask the school to ensure your DS is in a different class to this bully in September?

WombatStewForTea Sun 21-Jun-15 10:05:01

You need to get a copy of the school's anti bullying policy (it should be on the website) and check that they are following the steps on it.

The teacher has been rather unhelpful (this has been fairly obvious but after a conversation with another parent I became aware of a comment made where any issues had been denied!)
This concerns me slightly, do you mean the teacher was talking about your ds or the child in general? The teacher should not be talking about specific children and this is why it may appear she was denying it.

From your post I'm finding it hard to understand exactly what's going with your ds and this boy. But can I please reiterate that bullying is Several Times On Purpose.
Just because the boy is just by nature very very physical and aggressive doesn't make him a bully. I'm not trying to minimise how your ds may be feeling I just want you to be clear what exactly is going on.

Slinky11111 Sun 21-Jun-15 10:20:03

Why should your DS move? Shouldn't a bully be the one who is moved? Probably idealistic I know, just seems wrong....

JoyceDivision Sun 21-Jun-15 19:34:19

I was made aware that the parent approached the teacher to ask why their child had been spoken to by senior staff and the teacher said no idea why, not aware of any probs when we have been in multiple times.

Only one class per year so no chance of being split...

Wombat, i appreciate the question you are asking and I find I have to constantly question any incidents so i am not over reacting, but this child is aware dc is scared of him, he will just walk up punch / grab and drag him to the floor / kick / tell other children to find him then wall him up... there is no playing prior to this or socialising where there could be any playing that has gone too far...

WombatStewForTea Sun 21-Jun-15 21:29:49

I wouldn't trust hearsay from another parent. People say some bizzare things to make themselves feel better!
From what you've described it does sound like your child is bring bullied. Get the anti bullying policy and make an appointment to see the head and discuss.

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