Hi, my nearly 10 year old daughter has severe learning difficulties and is in a mainstream primary school in the year below her age group. She joined the school at 7 years old, having been home educated for 2 years.
She very quickly made friends as she has a really sunny disposition and sees the good in everyone. One little girl in particular latched onto her from the beginning. She has ADHD and mild learning difficulties. She is very controlling of my daughter and won't let her play with anyone else. If she does, then this girl will cry, so my daughter never wants to upset her. The teachers see them together all the time and think they are such good friends, but it's a rather unhealthy relationship. This little girl is becoming more and more nasty to my daughter calling her names like fat repeatedly, prodding and poking her, either in the thighs, tummy or her developing chest. She also yanks her hairbands up her hair, which she hates. She has asked her to stop and I've spoken to my daughters one to one and the teacher about it, but she still carries on. It's got to the stage where my daughter doesn't want to go to school anymore, cries at night and talks about this girl all the time, sounding more and more worried and upset.
Yesterday, the girl put glue in my daughters hair. It was an accident, but even so...
I spoke again to her one to one today, who said she'll have another word with the girl. The one to one lady has told my daughter in the past that she must play with this girl and not leave her out as she'll be upset. In normal life, we get to choose who we associate with, so why must she be made to play with someone who's like this? I told the one to one lady, that my daughter needs to break away from this girl but is worried about hurting her feelings. She agreed and said that it's so sad when my daughter doesn't play with her, as she goes all quiet and cries. (Emotional blackmail sprang to mind..) I know the little girl is very found of my daughter, she just can't seem to control herself or her outbursts and it's causing such upset that it can't be ignored. The teachers have tried telling her to stop, but she won't.
Not sure what to do from here... Any advice would be very welcome. Thanks.
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What can I do about this hurtful, annoying girl that's latched onto my daughter?
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chuffinalong · 03/02/2015 12:47
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