DS is 7 (8 in March) and in year 3 at school.
He came home yesterday with an invitation to join the school's "Reading Club" which runs for 15 minutes before school on a Thursday and Friday. There weren't very many details on the letter so when I dropped him off this morning, I had a quick word with his teacher as I wondered if it was to give extra help with his reading and I was worried that he was falling back as he's always been ahead with his reading - we do loads at home, I love books and seem to have passed this on, currently we're reading the first Harry Potter book together. He loves to read and constantly surprises me with how well he's doing. She said no, that the club was usually only for year 4s but that some spaces had become free so they had offered them to the better readers from year 3. Wonderful....
Except while we were talking, she said wanted a chat about DS's work in general. She said that while his reading and comprehension were really good and he was in the top set for Literacy, getting him to show this by putting work down on paper was a huge struggle. She said she'd been trying all sorts of things to get him to show work at the level she knew he could do but nothing was working. He'll still be struggling to get one piece of work done while the rest of the class are well into their second piece and a few days ago, took an hour to complete one comprehension question!
She said moving him to the top set had helped for a while and that now he was working at a better level for him, he had been interacting more but that this stopped working after a few weeks and he's back to daydreaming and not getting the work done. She said that he'd been kept in from playtime to complete work in 'Homework club' but that this didn't seem to have made a difference either. He just didn't seem bothered. Nothing else she has tried has worked either.
Obviously it's time that we got more involved from home to back up the school but I'm not sure what to do. We already talk very positively with him about school - easy for me as I was a complete swat and this has obviously rubbed off on 5yo DD as she loves school, we read a lot together, we encourage and help with homework, we encourage his interest in science with kits at home, we visit museums and DS attends Explore Learning tutoring for 2 hours a week as he was quite behind with his Maths to the point where he wouldn't even try to do the work as he found it too hard and had been convinced by a particularly bad teacher that he was thick. He works really well here and is almost back to where he should be and I wonder if that's because all the work is done on computers. DH is similar to DS (apart from the reading) and amazingly clever when it comes to Mainframes but uninterested in anything paper based.
I'm going to suggest that she talks to his year 1/2 teacher (his school works in double year groups so Reception, then 1/2 mixed, 3/4 mixed and 5/6 mixed) as she seemed to really 'get' him and could get him working - I know she would reward him for hard work with his favourite Lego in 'Golden Time' but I'm not sure if they do so much of that in Year 3. The rewards system they use at Explore Learning seems to help (he collects cards which can be exchanged for a reward of his choice) so I'll suggest something similar either collecting points/stickers to be either put towards a present or treat or towards time on the Xbox (only allowed at weekends at the moment) maybe but after that I'm stuck.
I know to some extent it will be just down to what gets him interested and obviously that's not pens and paper but he's going to have to get it done at some point otherwise he's going to waste his potential by not being able to pass an exam. I also know he's still very little but I feel like we need to start turning this around now otherwise he's going to really struggle in secondary school like DH did.
Apologies for the essay length brain dump. I'm sure at least someone will tell me that I'm over-reacting or pushing DS too hard but the school are asking me to help and I've tried everything I can think of so I'm hoping to get some advice on other things to try too.
Thanks for reading.
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Blatherskite · 28/01/2015 11:00
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